Mum died on Friday

[roosterroo]

My mum died suddenly on 10/5/2024, I am struggling and lost. We are waiting on the coroner as we don't have a cause of death, she was pottering about with my dad as usual. Went for a lie down and dad found her dead, I think I'm still in shock

Im so so sorry. What an awful time for you all. No help. But lots of hugs take each day as it comes.

I am so sorry for your loss. You must be in such shock. Take each day as it comes. Take all the time you need to grieve. There will come a time when you will remember your mum with a smile. Be patient with yourself. I know (from painful experience) that you worry about 'banging on' to friends about your grief and loss so talk as much as you want to here. It does help. Xx

Sorry for your sudden loss.

Hope both you and your dad can find some comfort in supporting each other at such a difficult time.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Please try to take some comfort in the fact that she didn’t suffer or have a long drawn out illness. I hope you get the results from the coroner soon and can make arrangements and start to move forward. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve.

Im so sorry for your loss OP, you will understandably be feeling everything and nothing right now. Just take one day at a time, be with your dad and do not put any pressure on yourself.

Dear @roosterroo i am so incredibly sorry it’s a massive shock and I am sending you all of my heartfelt condolences and love. The same thing happened to me 6 weeks ago and I am still in complete denial and bereft. Grief is viscious and please try to eat, drink and rest xxxxx

Sending love. The same happened to my dad last year. Went for a lie down and my mam found him. Please take one day at a time. Be kind to yourself. Please pm if you need to chat. It is so hard when there was no illness and the wait for the coroner.

@roosterroo I am so dreadfully sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me last month. It was Easter and we went to visit my Mum and Dad. She had a headache so went for a lay on the bed. Went to check her an hour later and found her dead. We had to do CPR but it was too late. It is such a dreadful shock and my heart goes out to you. Like you, there was involvement with a coroner and they did a post mortem via CT scan alone - it was heart related. I hope that the coroner can do something similar and can give you some answers. Take it each day at a time. I hope you and your Dad can support one another. My Dad and I who both did the CPR talked about it over and over until we were tired of talking about it. It has really helped as it is such a horrible shock for you all. Be very kind to yourself over the coming weeks. Much love xx

I’m so sorry for your loss. The same happened to me last year with my Mum, and it will take time for it to sink in and feel real. Hold on to your family, stay close and talking to each other. Take each day as it comes and let yourself feel everything you’re feeling. Cry, laugh, scream, whatever you need. I’ll be thinking of you. You will be ok in time, nearly a year on now and I have my moments of sadness but it’s taught me how precious life is 💕

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you have family and friends taking care of you.

My mum also died suddenly, on a Friday last year. It’s near impossible to process at the beginning.

I hope the coroner’s report helps you process things a bit more. I don’t have my mum’s cause of death and it’s driving me spare. So even if you’re dreading it, I think it will probably help you in the long term.

Since her sudden departure, I’ve found a lot of solace in the things that used to bring her joy: robins in my garden, the first daffodils, her favourite 70s songs. I hope it will be the same for you.

Sending you love and strength.

Im so sorry, different circumstance but after losing mum in feb I feel your pain. Do pm if you wanted to chat - it may sound odd but I met someone on here and we have been in touch and shes been incredible x

I'm so sorry for your loss. You must be feeling so shocked.

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

Thanks for your kind words, coroner came back today it was pancreatic failure. Went to register the death with my dad boy that was hard. You never think that as an only child you have to do all this had another proper cry at the town hall. I think I will distract myself with some trashy tv x

I may well do that. Thanks for the offer x

i’m so very sorry for your loss.

Very sorry for your loss. It's a difficult thing to go through. Honestly though, take peace in the fact your mum was doing something she loved, and then died peacefully without any pain.

@roosterroo there is so much that needs doing it gets overwhelming and the days blur into one so just do what you can when you can🫶🏼 I had to organise it all myself and clear her home as council wanted it back it’s been so much - I collected her ashes today. I just send you love - all of you on here who has lost someone and whom are experiencing grief - its so consuming and I do not feel like the same woman I was before mum died. 💐

@roosterroo I'm so sorry for your loss. My mum died on the 7th May, we're still awaiting a cause of death from the coroner. I'm an only child too. Feel free to PM me if you feel like talking.

I'm coping in the daytime (working from home) and am ok having dinner with my family, then once I'm on my own after dinner the grief cloud comes and I spend the evening crying and thinking.

Much love to everyone on this thread who has lost someone.