My auntie has died - she had breast cancer

[Pillow]

And she was 46. I am suddenly feeling very scared of the world. She was convinced that her cancer was caused by fertility treatment. She was trying everything, from about 10 years ago and I think tried some very experimental treatments. I have been on Clomid and had conversations with her where she was begging me to stop any treatment at all. Fwiw my mum thinks non-organic foods are to blame. Not about my auntie but the prevalance of cancers generally. I really don't want to sound flippant here. I am wondering if anyone thinks there are things we should be doing or avoiding. I want to see my baby grow up. My auntie was fine and doing really well a month ago. I'm really shocked at the speed of it all, and scared that everyone I love is going to die.

Pillow - I'm so sorry .

My own auntie died when she was just 52, and it is such a terrible shock. My mother also died of breast cancer, although she was older (76).

I think the thoughts and fears you are having at the moment are very normal for someone who has just lost a loved one. My mum's death in particular made me very conscious and fearful of my own mortality.

I think cancer is such a complex and varied disease it is difficult to pinpoint a single factor. However all the evidence seems to suggest eating lots of vegetables and fruit and getting enough exercise are the two most important things you can do.

Thinking of you..

I'm sorry about your aunt.

But really, don't get obsessed about the cause of her cancer. The chances are it wasn't caused by her fertility treatment at all. In fact, cancer generally down't have a "cause" at all as such - scientists do talk about risk factors, but I don't think either fertility treatments or non-organic food have been found to be serious risk factors. serious risk factors are smoking, obesity, bad diet, and excessive alcohol consumtion but ime much cancer is caused by sheer bad luck.

I don't know if that helps or not. Your feelings are only natural, but all you can really do is eat well and not smoke.

so sorry. how sad and what a waste of a life. hope you have a calm and peaceful night
Love to you and your family at this horrible time

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you at this sad time.

I do think in my own opinion that sheer bad luck plays a part - and a part that we don't lke to countenance because it could so easily happen to us too iyswim. I think really shitty things happen to really good people.

awww pillow so sad!blimey your aunty was young. you are justifiably scared you have lost someone - suddenly too.

take a deep breath, this is excruciatingly hard.

give yourself time to heal and reflect

thinking about you at such a bloody hard time

please take care pillow