PLease help with writing the card

[JODIEhavingababy]

My Best Friend lost her baby girl at 39 weeks earlier this month and today is the funeral. I have just sat down to write the card and I can't think of a single word to put in it that sounds right... Anyone any ideas?

maybe something along the line of 'thinking of you at this difficult time. i am here for you' ??

The card inside says

'It's always nice to know that someone really truly cares, and if one hug's just not enough I've plenty more to share.... Thinking of you in this dificult time'

I think the card says it all, but I'd like to add a personal message, just what???

When I have had to write something like this, I have always tried to be completely honest i.e 'I have tried really hard to think of the right think to put in here, but I couldn't, because nothing I can write will change things for you. I want to help in anyway I can though, and if you want me to cook for you/give you a hug/bring round a bottle/do some stuff round the house, then I will be there like a shot.

I am thinking of you, your dp, and your gorgeous daughter, who I know is loved and will always be missed.'

That's lovely notyummy. It sounds like a really simple thing to do, but it's so hard!!! Looking in from the outside always helps... Thanks

Unfortunatly I had a bit of practice, as one of my close friends had 3 babies born early (all before 26 weeks), who all died. Then she had a daughter who went to term, but then died at 4 days old because of a virus.

She is now a mother to 2 happy healthy boys, but for a while I did not know what I could say, and how she could bear such sorrow.

How awful for your friend. Glad she has finally had a healthy family, but there are so many sad, sad stories out there and you do wonder how people stay strong.. I'm in bits about my friend and I don't know how I am going to get through this afternnon, let alone my friend

All you can do is be there. I hope it goes ok for both you and her family.

Thanks for your advice, the card went down well and the funeral wasn't as bad as I'd expected it was so lovely, I think I was just nervous about seeing my friend for the first time since it all happened, but she was brilliant! I don't know where she gets the strength... She did say that she was looking forward to the funeral as it meant she could start getting on with things and looking towards the future rather than being in 'Limbo'..

glad to hear it jodie.