Question for those who have lost a partner (from an adult child)

[Firelighter9]

Finding myself worrying about what to talk about with the partner of my parent who recently died.

I want to keep chatting regularly, worry about them being lonely and very sad. But feel guilty or worried by sharing things we’re doing - is that going to make them feel worse? Eg. Is me saying “me and my family have been out to do X Y Z”, might that be insensitive if they’ve feeling they’ve got no partner to do these things with?

I know this is so individual but before I ask them directly, I wondered what others experiences are and what you’ve wanted.

I see you've not had any replies.

First, I'm sorry you've lost a loved one.

I can only go by my personal experience. I lost my wife in January. Married for over 45 years. I can't be bothered to do anything since, just not interest. my get up and go has got up and gone, as they say.

BUT. I have two daughters and I actively encourage them to do things, days out, book holidays, go for meals, etc. I enjoy hearing about what they've ben doing and always 'demand' lots of photos if their trips.

My wife and I loved our holidays but sadly the last year or so these weren't possible. But I do get pleasure about life going on for others.