One bereavement straight after another - not feeling very much

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I lost someone very close to me, and then a couple of months later another. In many ways I was closer to the second person who died. But I am not feeling much emotion at all around their death. I know that numbness and delayed grief is a thing. It’s making me feel incredibly guilty. But I also think I am so “in the middle” of grieving the first thing that my mind just isn’t allowing me to process the second?
is this normal?

It makes sense to me, your mind is just telling you that it can only process one bereavement at a time. I understand the need to feel guilty, but you don't need to justify this to anyone, it's just your own way of going through all this. I would try to release any self judgement if you can, bereavement is tricky and is different for all of us. I had two bereavements within 6 months of each other and a year on I still fluctuate between the two.

I lost my last year. A couple of months later I lost my dog. I grieved that dog like crazy. Obviously my mum was more important but it's like I could process the loss of my dog more easily

Grief is a funny thing

I'm feeling the same way. I lost my dad in January and my OH of 15 years two weeks ago. I'm rapidly switching between being fully overwhelmed and fully numb.

I'm also feeling guilt about "not being upset enough" too.

I really don't feel like it's properly sunk in yet that this is real.