It’s my dad

[Runningforcheesecake]

Dad is dying. Four weeks ago he was fine. Then he was suddenly taken ill. He went into hospital for tests and turns out he’s got cancer. And it’s aggressive and everywhere. Two weeks ago we thought he’d be able to come home but suddenly things have gone down hill. He’s not eating, barely drinking. He can’t walk or weight bear. He’s so thin. His breathing is laboured. He’s jaundiced and vomiting. My mum died many years ago so the hospital are finding a nursing home. I don’t even know if he’ll make it there. I live 50 miles from the hospital so I’m going as much as I can, every other day but I have teenage dcs. I’m utterly exhausted. I can’t believe this is happening , my poor dad.

I’m so very sorry about your dad. What an awful awful shock for you. Do you want to talk about him? Are you looking after yourself? Make sure you’re eating and sleeping the best you can. I know it’s not easy x

Sending lots of love I went through this last summer!

I have no words of advice but as dark as it is now you will get through it!

So sorry. What a shock for you.

My heart really does go out to you , I'm sat here typing this while my ddad is sat in his chair unable to get his pain under total control and knowing it is only a matter of time , he isn't eating and drinking very little but my dmum and I promised him he would stay at home as long as he wanted and I'm lucky to beat able to keep that promise , I'm thinking of you at this sad time as reading your post is like reading about my ddad with the weight loss and not eating/drinking

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

My dad is 81 so obviously I knew before this that time was limited however now that it’s happening, and so quickly, it’s a shock. I lost my mum to cancer many years ago so I know what this is like. That said, dad’s experience is evoking many memories of what happened to mum. Mum was thankfully ‘out of it’ for much of the time but dad is completely aware of what’s happening. It’s unbelievably cruel.

@moolady1977 my thoughts are with you, sis Rory that you are experiencing this too 😢.

I'm so sorry. I lost my Dad to cancer when he was 81 and it felt "too soon", he was very fit and well but then this terrible illness got him. It can still be a shock even if the patient is quite old.

Who is supporting you? Do you have any siblings?

*so sorry

Do you have siblings sharing the load with you?

@Runningforcheesecake cancer is so horrible a disease my heart goes out to everyone who is going through the heartbreak that comes with it

I'm so sorry, I lost my Dad at 71 only a few short months after he was diagnosed.

Can anyone help you with your teens, so you can spend more time with him?