Cremation and afterwards

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I am arranging a funeral and cremation. I have been to the crematorium and although the chapel is fine the memorial gardens are underwhelming and the plot and small plaque plus 20 year lease is nearly £5k. There are only about 30 people actually laid to rest. There is a communal garden though which wasn’t very comforting.

It’s clear having been to two different crematoriums that people aren’t laid to rest there. Have been to a local cemetery and that was much better but a bit run down.

Are these the choices? Am I missing anything? Money isn’t necessarily an issue but I feel I am missing something. Has anyone got any advice please?

We as a family scattered the ashes somewhere that was a special place. In saying that though I still have my grandmothers ashes form 20 years ago and im not sure what to do with them? Possibly eventually scatter them onto of my grandfathers grave?

Could you scatter somewhere special or on a grave of another loved one?

Is there a private crematorium/cemetery nearby? These usually have better grounds than the council run ones.

Alternatively you could scatter the ashes somewhere that was special to the deceased (you may need to get permission from the relevant landowner). My FIL has his ashes under a memorial tree that we planted at the golf course where he used to play.

You can bury the ashes in a churchyard and then have a stone (like a mini grave stone). We did this with my dads ashes and it's nice to have somewhere for us to go to remember him.

My grandparents ashes are buried under a new tree we paid to have planted in their favourite park. No plaque or anything but we know they are there and in their “happy place”.

It was just arranged through the council and we had a little private “ceremony” thing where all the grandchildren helped put the soil in around the tree.

The tree will hopefully grow and be there for hundreds of years, and be seen and enjoyed by many.

Thank you all. We are looking at a natural burial ground which apparently is very peaceful and not that far from us.

Many thanks for your responses

We paid for a plaque on a bench in a park dm loved. Somewhere we can go back to.