lost my 26 year old sister 03-04-2024

[Dulce91]

I don't know know what to do or how to help my mom. We don't know if she overdose or she overdose with her mental meds. I feel like i lost my feelings, all i want to do is sleep. Its so recent can someone give me advice on how to cope with this. I feel so lost.

[Piemam]

Lean on your loved ones. Look after yourself and each other. Do as little as possible to get by. Engage your GP services to get bereavement counselling- it is a specialised field and needs a specialist. Allow yourself to grieve how you feel necessary- this may change day to day. Sorry for your loss.

[tkwal]

I'm so, so sorry to read this. It's hard to lose a loved one and when she was so young and it happening suddenly somehow it seems worse.
Your family is probably in shock and you would love to have some words of consolation for each other but just let your presence be enough until you start to find the words. Every hug you give or accept , every time you hold a hand ,share a memory or even make a cup of tea will be a small comfort. Allow yourselves time to grieve together.
I wish I could offer you more but you and your family are in my thoughts and I hope you find the strength to come through together.

[1543687657lM]

OP I am so so sorry you and your family are going through this. I'm afraid I can't give you any advice on how to cope, but can empathize and offer a listening ear. I lost my sister to what is believed to be suicide this November and seeing the impact it has had and is having on my parents is unbearable. It is still so very recent for you and you will all still be in a great deal of shock.
The analogy of grief being like waves is the closest thing I feel to describing it. My family and I have found that the frequency and size of the waves are overall becoming more bearable on the whole. Sometimes my mum and I talk for hours, sometimes it's too difficult. Just being there, in whatever capacity, is enough. Tkwal is absolutely right with everything they said.
Sending you and your family so much love. You are in my thoughts 💐

[BereaverBeaver]

So sorry for your loss. Grief is so painful. People will tell you that time helps and it is true but the problem is time cannot be speeded up. Take it a day at a time or less. Just focus on getting through the next ten minutes, half an hour.

About helping your mum, this author has written a book about the loss of a child. I have read a few interviews with her but haven't read the book. Her child was a baby but I think the principles will apply - may hel

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/baby-loss-grief-clare-mackintosh-gcv8mm5q9

[saraclara]

Oh gosh. My stomach lurched reading this. I'm so sorry that you've lost her. She was so young, and I imagine that you are too.

Can you get some help? Where are you and can we find you a telephone helpline for you so that you can talk to someone?