My ex-husband died😢 Anyone else have advice?

[piegirl74]

It was devastatingly unexpected and I have three children's grief to manage. He was a brilliant dad. He was at home with my daughter and his new wife (and partner of 10 years). He was on the peloton and they found him. Had to try and get help and administer CPR, etc. Was horrendously traumatic. I had to tell my other two children. They were 22, 19 and 14 when he died. I think my eldest daughter has PDSD. I fully intend to get her support (probably from Winston's Wishes).

There are other complications going on for me... I have my own grief too. Anyone else experienced something like this?

[Jk8]

That's a terrible shock, no first hand experiance but sending my best wishes to you & your children!

Are you still in touch with his side of the family ? (Or on good terms with his wife) as being close to them might help either side.

I think when you cant heal your own pain (or that of your children) supporting other people might be the only way forward.

Also speak to a GP about your daughter (ontop of the counciling) as she may need further help antidepressants for the support to really set in. I cant imagine thr grief & helplessness she must be feeling.

Take care of each other & send your best wishes to your ex as a final parting message

[piegirl74]

I am on good terms with his family and it has certainly helped. I have huge empathy for his wife. It took us years to get to a good place but we were there and it was getting better and better. Then this. Good idea about the Doctor. I will do that. Also, we need to get the children's hearts checked as may be hereditary