I feel almost selfish to write this but I feel so alone
My father is dying, he wants to go, today he said he feels he will be gone within the week
This is all quite sudden as although ill health it was controlled for years, but last week he had a stroke and other issues, and the fighting spirit he's always had is gone. He's told the doctors, no resucitation and he's had enough.
It's just me and my mum. I need to be so strong to support her. She's always been incredibly dependent..it's almost like looking after a child at times.
She will literally fall to pieces without my dad who has always done everything for her. She cant even pay a bill or deal with anything admin related. Life just seems impossible to her...she admits she's relied on dad too much and says it's too late to change now. I have power of attorney.
I left domestic violence last summer and moved to a tiny hamlet where I don't know a soul. I've not been able to make friends here as I work antisocial hours and every week is different so not like I can join or commit to anything. I don't have weekends and work most evenings. I was just starting to think about getting life back on track and change jobs as it's up to me to get out there and meet people and become part of my new community. Right now I have to deal with my parents so the job hunting will be left for a while.
I do have friends but none are local and all have busy lives. Certainly people I can contact but not necessarily see, and again, my hours don't help
My brother lives other side of the world.
I see others going through traumatic events with supportive partners. I just wish I had someone to give me a hug and say I'll get through this. I have ptsd and am a terrible sleeper and get panic attacks, nightmares and night terrors, that was before this with my father.
How have others dealt with being alone while supporting a loved one through bereavement?
Did you just put your big girl pants on and deal with it because you had no choice ? I'm trying to but then I get home to a lonely house and it hits me just how alone I am. How can I give the support I need to when I feel like this...
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alltoomuchrightnow · 11/03/2024 22:25
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