I'm going to the funeral of a young person who died in an accident and I'm a friend of the DM. I'm really heartbroken for her, but I don't want to be a sobbing wreck at the funeral. I want to show support for the family - not make a spectacle of myself. So how do I pull myself together and behave in a dignified way on the day? I'll be driving, so a stiff drink beforehand isn't really an option. I just need to detach a bit, but I'm not sure how. Can anyone who's been to lots of funerals share any wisdom? I haven't been to very many and the few I've been to I've just felt such empathy for the bereaved, but I'd like to be a bit more dignified and calm, if possible.