Grief and PND?

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I’m not sure how or what quite to say but I’m wondering if I have PND perhaps.

I had a baby last year and at the same time my Dad became terminally ill which was very unexpected and escalated quickly, he has since passed away and it’s been so sad. Grief has taken me by surprise I guess, I almost think about my Dad more now than I ever did in some strange way.

I have up and downs but I recognise that I am almost always irritable as hell, some days I feel quite flat and I have a sense of guilt and resentment that this time with my new baby has been so different from what I imagined. But I do have enjoyable moments and in those I think ahh I’m fine! I can tell my husband is feeling worn down by me and my constant irritableness and that’s making me feel pretty glum too.

Is this just bereavement and the stages of grief or is there more to it such as PND?

Could be either or. I'd go and speak to your gp.

It would be worth having some bereavement counselling.

Grief is hard work ..it takes time to heal....go easy on yourself...you will get good and bad days....is there anything in particular that helps you get through the worse days? Men really don't understand women's grief process, so I'm assuming your not getting much support from him? Is there anyone else you could talk to friend/family... when I lost my dad 5yrs ago it was so hard...but I took every opportunity to go on walks and embrace nature...it was and still is healing...the first year is always the worst...I also lost my baby at full term 2 yrs after my dad passed away... this month marks my baby boys 3rd death anniversary! It's been ever so hard physically and mentally as grief really does take its toll on both. Times a healer and I'm in a much better place than I was before....I miss them both but I'm not suffering over their loss anymore. Give yourself some time do what you need to do and what's best for your mental health. Hope you heal soon OP 🙏