My beautiful papa (dad) died

[Hopskiplou]

It was awful - beyond belief. He was 73, fit and well. Until he wasn’t. Had a massive stroke and spent weeks in hospital deteriorating. By then end he was immobile and had galloping dementia. I’ve visited 95 times and wheeled him about, done stroke
rehab etc, all for nothing. After 3 months in hospital, his death in hospital was most definitely not peaceful. I was there and it was horrendous. Mums netters - how the hell do I get over this?

So sorry to hear about your Dad and how his last few months were.
In short you probably don't really get over it.
But what you do do, is accept that you loved him very much and did everything that a loving child could do for his comfort.
Then you start being kind to yourself and start remembering the good things about your Dad and the happier memories you have of him.
Don't let the last few months you have lived through taint your memories - your Dad wasn't like that until he became poorly and he wouldn't have understood what was happening to him or why he was feeling or doing the things he was. So love him for the hero that he was to you in the better times. Hugs.

Counselling, grief and bereavement counselling and time, lots of time. It won’t go away, but you learn to deal with it in better ways.
You will go through various stages back to a new normal, sometimes those stages will move forward and sometimes they will feel
like a step back, but you will emerge.

It shitty, it’s hell, it sucks, but you will get through it.

Sorry to hear your Dad’s last months were so horrendous 💐

So so sorry. I have no advice but I'm sorry.

Sending you so much 💐 tonight

@Rainbow1901 thank you. He was a bit of a hero - my favourite person. And you’re absolutely right, he wasn’t like that until stroke, he was 100% my Dad, and stroke robbed him x

Thank you @mumyes @LadyWithLapdog @curlupandvanishforever @-@Alphabet1spaghetti2 - your messages to a stranger help. thank you