Insensitive conversations

[Firsttimmummy]

Hi all I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable, my granddad died two days ago and he raised me and literally took me in as his own, he was more like a father to me than a grandad. He passed away unexpectedly and my heart is shattered.

My MIL came over for Xmas dinner and I didn't really want anyone around but felt like I had no other choice and I wanted to make the day as magical as I could for my LO so put on a good face.

At Xmas dinner she was like oh you can move to the same town as us, your lo can hang out with bil children (has no children yet), we can look after the dogs and my heart just shattered when she said I had no support system ... That basically meant my grandad was the only one. I have my mum but we ain't close, although I do have great friends who has supported me. I'm so angry at my husband and can't let go the fact he stood by and just said "oh we was considering the area"

I’m sorry to hear about your grandad, it sounds like you loved him very much. Two days is such a short time, the shock must be huge!
I think mil was insensitive, it’s still so soon for any decisions to be made. I think her mind is racing ahead and it was unfair for her to share these thoughts.
is she usually insensitive or is this a one off?

Hm, unless there’s a back story I don’t think she meant to be insensitive, probably just a mistimed comment to say she thinks you could do with extra support and why not move closer

She mentioned it twice once at dinner and then when we was wrapping presents. She wants her son GD to live near her as her parents were from this area and she wants to be closer to the grave ... She doesn't give a crap about me she didn't even message me once to ask if I'm okay she asked her son if he was okay? But not me ..

Depends entirely on the relationship and how it was said. It was insensitive timing. If it was "if you need support we can help out if you wanted to move nearer" then she might have been tryinf to be helpful. If it was "Oooh goody now you can move nearer" then that's out of order

No she said again yesterday she was trying to bully us to moving there and it was "her son house" which is hilarious as I pay half the bills.