Feeling as if someone has finally “gone” from their home

[Aydel]

I was talking to my cousin today about how after my Mum died, I felt that she was still there when I popped in to keep an eye on the house, collect post and do a bit of cleaning. I could still feel her presence. Until one time I called in and it felt empty - she wasn’t there any more. My cousin said she felt the same when her parents had died - as if they were still there, and then suddenly they weren’t, and it was just a house. She felt at that point that she could put it on the market, as she hadn’t felt able to before.

Has anyone else felt this? We are living temporarily in my Mum’s house and I don’t feel her presence at all. It’s like it could be any house anywhere that we are renting.

No, but my mum moved in with her MIL when she married my Dad. After MIL died, Mum said she heard footsteps upstairs, which she said were MIL having one last look around.

I could feel my DH's presence for a few days/weeks after he died. I would suddenly smell this particular medical smell from the hospital and know he was there. Then one night I dreamt vividly that he was standing on a beach waving goodbye to me as I sailed away on a ship. After that I never smelled the smell or felt his presence again. He was gone.

I've had a baby and my Nana died just after he was born. Every so often I could smell her so strongly on him it was unbelievable. She could have been there in the room. I always put it down to I was just grieving her. Now four years later I've had another baby three months ago. Twice so far I have gotten her out the cot and my Nana smell is overwhelming. I haven't slept it since my little one was a few months old. I can't explain the smell logically but I like to think she's watching over my babies

@trakehner yes, part of it was the smell. It was a mix of soap powder and her perfume. Also the smell of the house. But overwhelmingly a strong feeling like she was there. And then one day I went back and there was just nothing at all. No smell and no feeling of her presence, just a cold, empty house.

I went to my mum’s flat a week after she died. I thought I’d feel her presence but she was gone, gone, gone. I kept hearing her voice very vividly for a few months after she passed though, calling me like she was stuck on the other side. It was quite distressing. I’d love to smell her perfume on my daughter. 😢

I felt like that about my dad for ages , always looked to his seat expecting him to be there and even after mam arranged the furniture - now I don’t feel that way , I don’t feel his presence by his graveside but I feel it in the wind which I know sounds crazy

No, I went to my mam's house the day she died and I didn't feel she was there. I felt like there was evidence of her there- her clothes, belongings, treasures, habits but not her. She had been in hospital for 3 weeks.

My Mum died in a care home and my sister and I were with her. We stayed until she was collected but as soon as she died I knew she’d gone from the prison her bed had been. There was no trace or feeling of her at all in the room and I truly hope that means that she was released and at peace straight away. I have thought of her so many times since and talk to her often but not felt her presence.

I felt this after my Dad died. I believe it was a psychological part of the grieving process which I don’t truly understand.

My DH died four years ago.He died in hospital but I felt he was still in the house for a year afterwards.
He never missed the 6 pm news on the telly, and it would automatically come on even when switched off.Also our bedside radio would always be on when I went up to bed, it had been switched off all day. The radiator would be on in his hobby room, no one else had been in to put it on.
I am telling the truth here not making this up.
After the first year all these things stopped.I feel he was doing these familiar things to let us know he was still around us.

Oh I had also forgotten. The night my Mum died - she died in hospital - I caught the train back to London, after I had seen the doctor. I noticed that my phone was showing a voicemail message. I played it, and it was my Mum saying she hoped I had a good journey home and got a good night’s sleep. I’ve no idea when she left the message - she had had a stroke and her speech wasn’t very clear, but the message was clear. I pressed 2 to keep the message. It was still there the next day, but after that it just disappeared and I couldn’t get it back.

Yes! Definitely felt this after my son's Dad died. One day he just wasn't 'there' anymore, energetically. I kinda miss that feeling of him being near, but equally it's nice to live in the home without feeling he's around every corner.

My sister's DH died when he was 41 leaving her with 3 young DC. She said she could smell his presence in her bedroom. We couldn't smell anything. We thought it might be because his clothes were still in their wardrobe. We helped her sort out his clothes for charity but she swore she could still smell his presence and knew he was still there. One day about 2 months later she quietly told me he'd gone now. I've no idea how but just thought she just couldn't bear to let him go any sooner.

Definitely felt my DPs presence in our childhood home (and used to talk to them 😂) up until 6 months ago when it went on the market. Now I just go in to check the post and they're no longer "there".

I never felt any ‘presence’ in my parents’ home after they died, even when all their possessions were still there. But I think the fact I don’t believe in anything spiritual makes a difference. If I was someone that wanted to feel it, I could have convinced myself.

The day my mum died when I walked into the enteranve I had the distinct feeling she was in the living room. Like when you can sense some in the house or has come in to the same room. She had an ambulance and I expected her to be on the sofa with the ambulance staff.

But it was my dad and brother looking horrified. She was upstairs being worked on by the paramedics. But I could feel her downstairs. When the paramedics let us up to see her after they told us she was gone, I walked into her bedroom and I have never felt like a room was so empty. I can’t explain it. Downstairs I felt like she was there. Upstairs where her body was empty. The whole room was empty.

i still feel like she is there sometimes. I hear a noise and I expect it to be her and like I can feel her walking in. It been 2 years. But I don’t feel she is there all the time.