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Dealing with Bereavement and Grief over the festive holidays. Words of Comfort to You !

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cakes1 · 25/12/2023 11:53

The festive holidays is a sad time for those of us who have lost loved ones, friends, family member, family members, a parent, both parents, spouse, etc.
Bereavement /"Grief" feels like a life sentence for anyone is suffering from pain, sadness, loss of a loved one, our memory keeps their spirit alive every single second of our waking lives until our own death. We all deal with grief in different ways, there is no one answer or cure at all. But common school of thought to share with you all " is to think positive and try and celebrate the fun times in their memory as a way to celebrate their previous life with a smile " and count your blessings daily with a toast with whatever type of drink i.e. tea, coffee, wine, glass of wine, juice, water etc. . l hope the above content, helps you heal, ease your pain, sadness and sorrow of the loss of a deceased loved one or loved ones" over the festive holidays, including 365 days of the year 24 x 7."l am so sorry, l have just woken up my own personal grief, still half asleep typing this thread on Xmas day. "l am, feeling rough myself and dealing with grief "the loss of both my parents who died , passed away within a space of 9 months , l lost my mum, then my dad in the same year, 2 deaths, 2 funerals ..it's a massive shock to the system "l wanted to die myself "it was a big ask for me, it is for anyone or any family to take on any kind of bereavement, grief" is what l am currently dealing with right now, 365 day 24 x 7 . My thoughts are with you all, and millions of other people across the world dealing with bereavement, grief in similar situation across the world "l am deeply sorry for your own personal loss and all others suffering in pain, sadness, sorrow, coz of all other life style reasons etc
"God bless every single one of you and everyone across the world, .Amen "

On a sad note, l am currently homeless "a victim of dealing with a "rogue private landlord. Who has been reported etc. . l lost all my lifelong personal possessions in reference to the above incident. A week before Xmas week, l asked a trusted someone to book a one-night hotel room for me so l can grief in private and pray indoors in remembrance of the loss of both my parents and l gave money to someone l thought l trusted, she took my money and disappeared, she never booked the room for me, "l paid her an incentive an additional £7 to do this for me " as a favor to her for helping me with the booking". What a vile person she is " she broke my heart; l was in shock the entire day in tears". l never saw this coming at all, as l was so excited to be indoors for just one night, l did not need this distraction at all, but l wanted to spend my private time in remembrance thoughts of both my deceased parents and in prayer on Xmas day. On their fav day of the year indoors to help me ease and heal my pain, sadness, sorrow and suffering was my personal gift to myself". Xmas eve, a member of the public asked me how l was spending Xmas day, "l told her not great, Xmas lunch and supper for me is eating a loaf of discounted 50% loaf of white bread and drinking bottled water ..it's all l can afford as a vulnerable homeless person after being scammed by this person" this woman was in tears, she told me l moved her to tears and she hugged me for about 2 to 3 minutes " l am aware a % of the world's population do not celebrate Xmas at all fair play to them.. After all, it's a free world. Wishing you all, a merry Xmas day and boxing day, and a happy New Year, best of 2024 and the best of health to you, everyone. p..s. l feel a bit better sharing my thoughts with you all on Xmas day.
Thank you for sharing my content.

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mumof2many1943 · 25/12/2023 17:22

Thankyou for your kind words of comfort my wonderful DH died last year and my youngest “homegrown” son died in September. My lovely family re supporting me along with my 3 with Down syndrome. What would I do without them?
Stay strong my lovely we will survive 🌺x

Sunflower8848 · 25/12/2023 17:26

I am sorry to hear about your struggles. If there is anything I can do to help please PM me. Where in the UK are you?

cakes1 · 25/12/2023 22:36
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Thank you for your prompt reply on Xmas day. I share your grief as well. l am sorry for your loss,, pain, sadness, sorrow and suffering as well. lt is a tearful club for all of us dealing with grief over the festive holidays, 365 days a year, 24 x7 . Try and be strong and be positive and remember the fun times, in memory of your deceased loved one, .." as a celebration of their previous life on earth planet" those memories should bring a smile to your face "and yes "tears of joy as well" it is the reality check of real raw emotions. For death eventually touches every single one of us at the best and worse of times unexpectedly. " For today is not ours and tomorrow is not promised " So count your blessings daily. lt is good to share content like this with other people. This image is for you. Merry Xmas , Happy New Year and the Best of 2024, l wish you the best of good health. God bless you.

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mumof2many1943 · 26/12/2023 20:08

Hopefully a better year for you next year. Christmas was hard but we had to keep going for our youngest 3. Bless them they raised a glass (cola) to their dad and brother.
I hopecakes4 you survived this Christmas my thoughts are with you x

TheSilentSister · 29/12/2023 23:45

Bless you for thinking of others while your own life is in turmoil. I also have lost my parents (DM this year) and am finding it incredibly painful.
I truly hope that you find your feet next year and can move on. So sorry some shitty humans have abused your trust. Your time will come, believe that.

cakes1 · 30/12/2023 11:53
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Thank you and god bless your darling soul for taking time out to care and reach out to me "Life does suck for me terribly right not. One back luck after the other "...as a victim of crime , but justice has been served for sure", l even got scammed again few days before Xmas day...l was trying to get a hotel room for one night to grief in private, prey and think of my deceased parents in my thoughts and to catch up on some much quality sleep as l am temporary homeless, the person l trusted to book the hotel room for me ran off with my money etc. She broke my heart as l myself have cared for this person needs all through 2023..putting myself second...such a vile human being to deny me of this precious ME time", trust me "her punished karma is long over duo " it will come to bite in the arse sometime soon". l never saw any of her bad antics coming towards me .. The entire scam happened very quickly . Yet, again a victim of crime to start and end of 2023 for me. hey ho!l need to put this incident me, its distracting as l want to 2024 with a clean plate or slate ? Happy New year to you ..my 😇

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