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Starting to really struggle

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sobeyondthehills · 04/12/2023 03:23

My Dad died a week ago, it was expected, he had been ill for a while and tbh I thought I was coping well with it, but I have hit the weekend and now I am struggling.

Funeral is all arranged, I think we have to still do the Will bits, but my sibling is dealing with that, so its not something I can get involved with and take my mind off things, which I think organising the funeral helped with.

I just keep getting waves of sadness hitting me and I dont really want to deal with work tomorrow. I have had some serious mental health problems in the past, and I recognise that some are coming back (not wanting to leave my house) so I know I have to get my arse into work tomorrow. But fucking hell its hard.

I have excellent support round me, I think alot of this has come from the fact we have told people now, because of the funeral, so its on social media, whereas before I could just ignore it had happened.

I am not sure what I really want tbh. We are lucky in the fact that we never really have had to deal with death before, its been years since the last one in my family and I have no real idea how the fuck I meant to deal with this as an adult.

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Stilldigging · 04/12/2023 14:54

Sorry for your loss. I'm not sure you should be rushing back to work. I did that when my Dad died, and it came back to bite me a few months later and I ended up going off with stress because I didn't stop and give myself time to grieve. Can you take a bit of time off and get out of the house for walks, or other things that will help you instead?

sobeyondthehills · 05/12/2023 22:57

Stilldigging · 04/12/2023 14:54

Sorry for your loss. I'm not sure you should be rushing back to work. I did that when my Dad died, and it came back to bite me a few months later and I ended up going off with stress because I didn't stop and give myself time to grieve. Can you take a bit of time off and get out of the house for walks, or other things that will help you instead?

Hi

Sorry its taken me a while to reply, and thank you for replying.

I have to work to afford things, I only got 2 days paid. I could go off ill, which I am considering, but also I need the routine, I am not sure how to adult at the moment.

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Knackeredhamster · 05/12/2023 23:12

From my recent bereavement experience I'd suggest a GP appointment if you can get one to ask for a fit note.

To give you some breathing space.

I'm sorry for your loss xxx

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