My dad died today

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My dad died this morning and I feel totally lost. I don't know what to do and feel like I need to get out of my own body (if that makes sense) because I'm going crazy.

I adored him. Everyone says this, but he was amazing. The kindest, gentlest soul who would do anything for anyone. He didn't deserve this. He should still be here to see his grandchildren grow into teenagers and to play more football with them.

His death has come as a huge shock and it was sudden. He went to hospital a few days ago with chest and back pain and vomiting, but they sent him home in less than 24 hours, saying that they couldn't find anything and it was probably just a bug!!! This is a man who had a previous heart problem. I'm so angry. And upset. And numb. I can't think and then I'm thinking too much.

Please tell me how to cope. I have never felt pain like this.

So sorry for your loss, you must be in shock

i I hope you have someone with you xxx

I'm so sorry about your dad. I lost mine many years ago, and my many memories of him are a great comfort. He pops into my mind every day. The pain can't be avoided; it shows the strength of your love for him. Love to you.

I'm so sorry for your sudden loss. It's doesn't get better but it will get easier at some point.
Do you have a partner or a friend to comfort you in the next few days?

I'm so sorry. I lost my mum last year and totally understand how you feel. Be kind to yourself. Do you want to tell us more about your dad?

Oh bless you, I'm so, so sorry.

You are wrong in saying everyone feels the way you do about their Dad. Your Dad was wonderful and clearly loved you so much, that the pain you feel now is almost unbearable.

You were his gift, his prize for being a loving, beautiful man.

It's gonna hurt like hell but all the love he gave you hasn't gone. You are still here and as you live your life, you will remember him and carry that love with you.

It's not fair but take comfort in a life well lived and just keep on remembering him.

If you feel like you want to escape, is there a place which was special to you both? You could go and talk to him. Your love will keep him near always.

I’m so, so sorry for your loss, it’s absolute hell loosing your Dad, especially this quick.

Apologies for jumping on your thread. I too lost my Dad last week. Suddenly and out of nowhere. Not ill nothing. I have no idea how to feel anything. I'm just empty, numb

So sorry for your loss. I recently lost my Mum, and the only advice I can give you is to let the hours and days roll past you, taking the feelings as they come. Sometimes you'll be sad, sometimes you'll forget for a little while, sometimes you'll be angry - all valid stuff to feel. Let it all roll in and roll away, and be kind to yourself with no pressure to be a certain way or do anything.

Losing a beloved parent suddenly is always a shock. I lost my Dad who I literally worshipped 20 years ago now. He died December 18th on his wedding anniversary. I always put my tree up that day to remember him. He loved Xmas.

Sorry OP, I meant to say, it's so difficult because your brain hasn't had time to take your loss in yet because he went from being fine to dead so quickly. It's easier when people are ill for a while before they die.

So very sorry to read this news. I am thinking of you.

My mum died on Wednesday and she was my absolute best friend x
Life just feels so different but we've got this 💪🏼x

I'm so sorry 💐

I am so sorry for you, too 💐

I lost my niece suddenly on Tues & it’s awful. I’m thinking of you op. The absolute shock & sadness floors you. I flit from sadness to anger to just wanting/forcing myself to try & get over it. Then back to square one. I’m mostly in tears & searching my mind for answers & someone to blame.

Let yourself cry, think about it, process it & just let the days pass without expecting anything from yourself.

I’m so sorry for the loss you f your Dad, he sounds lovely.

So sorry for your loss. In time you will be glad your dad was independent to the end and didn’t suffer & in all likelihood that would be what he would have wanted.

You do feel like your children have been robbed of their relationship with them, but you can tell them about them, their sayings & likes & dislikes & they will know them through that.

Just take every day as it comes & be kind to yourself, it’s a big adjustment, but he would want you to come through this.

I am really sorry for your loss.
This is one of the hardest journeys you'll ever go on. You were really fortunate to have such a lovely, lovely Dad and I can only imagine the gaping hole his loss means for you. It's not fair is it? If you're a reader, Donna Ashworth has written stuff that seems to perfect capture what you're feeling and puts it into words. I found it really helpful. Anyway, I hope you have some RL support and again, I'm sorry.

Thank you all so much for your support and kind words. It means a lot.

I am so sorry for those of you who have also had recent losses. The pain is excruciating isn't it? The things unsaid, the laughs unshared, the fact that you will never see their face again. It is unbearable and I have never felt pain like it.

I cannot put my dad into words because to do that seems to limit how absolutely amazing he was. He spent his life doing things for others, making others happy. Putting us first. From the older neighbours who needed help, to the strangers he'd meet in the shop, he gave his all to everyone and showed every person he met how special he was. I always wondered how a person could be so good and so patient, especially with me who gave him many challenges during my teenage years!

I just can't imagine my life or my young children's lives without him. Without his jokes, his stories, his chats about films, music or what was going on in the world. I will miss his cheeky grin and his laughter.

I will miss this man forever and I just don't know how to go on without ever speaking with him again.

Terrible grief really is the price we pay for immense love ❤️