Friends mum has just passed away and I don't know what to say or do.

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A friend of ours (DH & I) mum has passed away this afternoon, she had a stroke/Heart Attack on Sunday and hasn't recovered. She wasn't particularly old (50's) I don't think, I didn't know her myself but DH did (friend is an old school friend). She has been ill for a long time but nothing that we thought would lead to her passing, she has had mobility problems etc.

Our friend lives at home with his mum, his dad left many years ago and he 2 siblings who live miles away.

I sent a text at the weekend saying sorry to hear his mum was ill and to let us know if he needs anything doing, food shopping or anything - he replied saying thanks very much.
I have text him this afternoon to say we have heard his news and are so sorry and if there is anything we can do, anything at all to just let us know - DH is going to call him when he's in from work.

I just don't know what to say, he is going to need practical help but I don't want to suggest anything in case it's too soon or I'm standing on anyone's toes - He's only 26

I would suggest going around with some sort of meal perhaps? And then see if he needs help.

He replied to my text this afternoon saying "Thanks, Don't know what I need at the minute or what to do but I'll let you know, Thanks"

Thanks Clarice
He lives in the area we used to live in so we're not on the doorstep but I am visiting family tomorrow so am litterally a stones throw away from him. I just don't want to get in his way or anything if he wants to be left alone.
It's so hard to know what to do for the best

I think you should go over. Take something edible and it serves as a good excuse. If he is on his own and only 26 then he will appreciate just knowing you are thinking of him - give him a call/text on daily basis.

I was also going to suggest some food. Men aren't the best at looking after themselves sometimes and this news will have knocked them for six.

Thanks - I will run the food idea past DH and see what he thinks.
Our friend is single too and I just can't really see how he's going to manage practically at present, especially with the arrangements he is going to have to make, talking to family etc - I s'pose eating is probably the last thing on his mind

Perhaps you could give him a call, tell him you can come over tomorrow and then you can work out what he has done and what needs to do. There is alot to be done at a time like this and talking it through might help him feel less lost.

You are being a true friend - go with the flow but stay in touch with him

If you can get to a book shop before you go -When my dad died when i was 24 I found there was lots of books about this in my local waterstones -they helped me feel like i wasn't rhe only one in the world this had happened to. There should also be some ones about sorting practical stuff out if he hasn't got anyone to help him with that stuff.
I handed books over to several of my friends when their parents died with the proviso that it helped me,but please chuck it in the bin if it wasn't their sort of thing.

Have just realised hios dad isn't there. Will he be telling his dad?

Does he live completely alone now? Does he have a girlfriend or friends close by?