One year anniversary approaching

[shellyleppard]

I lost my mum nearly a year ago. I'm so so sad about it. I've got through the first Christmas/birthday without her. I've scattered her ashes. But I just can't stop crying about the first anniversary of her death. I don't know what to do on the day. Distract myself or just hug the gin bottle 😢😢

What would she like to think of you doing? If you can't do the day for you, do the day for her.

It's so hard.

DF died 11 years ago. I can only my speak from experience but, for me, the run up to the day is much worse than the say itself. Sending you love and warmth xx

I'm sorry about your mum, all the "firsts" afterwards are so painful.

I don't remember what I did to get through the first anniversary but I do remember dreading it and struggling with the sense of time moving on and not being able to bring her with me.

I think you just need to take care of yourself in the best way you can. Take it one minute at a time and don't think further ahead than you can bear. 💐

I am sure that your Mum would want you to be happy, albeit that will be very hard on such a day. Think as she would and do something that perhaps you both enjoyed or that gives you pleasure and enjoy the happy memories of your Mum. When my father died, we used to go for a nice meal on that day in order to remember him. However, do not put any pressure on yourself. Sending hugs. X

So sorry for your loss.
I lost my amazing mum just two weeks ago. Tomorrow I go back to work for the first time and have to address a big gathering- so I'm nervous about not getting upset infornt of them

I'd say to you, what I'm saying to myself.

Just keep doing what you know your mum would want.
Put one foot in front of the other and keep going.

It's rubbish, it hurts like mad but there's no way our mums would want us stuck at home (or at the bottom of a bottle.)

Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself, but keep on going x

So sorry for the loss of your mum.

Try not to focus on the occasion, we try to treat these days, as usual day, as this makes things easier for us.

Every day is hard. Your mum would want you to be happy.

We are two years on, less tears, more focus on the happy times, but it is still hard. Life grows around the grief, the grief stays the same size, but life get bigger if that makes sense. This is has been our experience.

Good luck, wishing you all the very best.

Thank you all for your beautiful messages. Love and hugs to you all. I will take it minute by minute, hour by hour, then day by day. 🙏❤️