My Gran died this morning...

[Lomond]

and I don't know what to do.

One minute I am calm and relieved that she is now at peace and free of pain. The next I lose it and can't seem to hold it together at all.

I want to help my mum, I thought I could be strong for her but I just can't stop crying.

The grief is overwhelming. I just want to shut myself away but I have to try and be strong. I thought I was prepared for it but I wasn't

Sorry to hear of your loss Lomond

Poor you. Theres no sadness like it.Let it all out, it does make it easier. You will be able to help your Mum soon, and I bet she's worrying about helping you.

I'm really sorry for your loss.

Thank you. I always thought that knowing in advance that someone was going to die would make it easier. I have been grieving in a way all week because we knew that it would be soon but it still hits you like a brick.

Sympathies Lomond, my Nan died on Thursday so I know how you feel

Oh Lomond so sorry for your loss My gran died about 7 years ago and I missed her so much. Grandma and Grandchild is a special relationship. Cry all you want, dont hold it in - that will make you feel really ill. So sorry

serenity - so sorry to hear of your sad loss as well

serenity I am so sorry to hear of your loss too, how are you bearing up?

Thank you shabster for your kind words, I don't know why I feel I have to hold it in. For everyone else really. I don't want to make them more upset by worrying about me.

I'm OKish thanks, had a couple of days to try and get my head around it. Not looking forward to the funeral though.

The funeral is the hardest part, hope you can get throught it ok x

Sorry to hear of your loss Lomond.

Thank you Dizzy.

Oh dear. My grandad died on Friday morning too. I feel so lost and life seems pointless just now. Sorry for your loss too. A hard old time.

So sorry for all the ladies on here who have been bereaved....losing someone you really love is so difficult.

niceglasses I am sorry to hear that.

sorry

In the last 3 years we have lost 3 grand parents plus 2 more I hadn't seen for a long time and it is such a sad time.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Can you spend some time with your Mum and have a cry and a talk together?

so sorry Lomond

I just wanted to say I am so sorry to you and all the others who have lost someone close.

Hi just thought I'd give a wee update.

I managed to pull myself together yesterday afternoon and went over to my mums. My sister was there too. Mum was putting on a brave face for everyone so I didn't really feel like I could let on how badly I felt. It was like she wanted to act normally, (I know that it is just her way of coping) but I could have done with letting it all out.

My Uncle came over for a while too, he has taken it very hard and is in a terrible state so I felt I could talk more to him about it all. He is like me, finding it hard to get through each hour without crying.

Managed to get a good sleep when I got home though (I am also completely loaded with the cold at the moment and feeling rotten).

Today both my sister and my mum wanted to go shopping (I find it hard to understand how they can face going out) but I refused and used my cold as an excuse not to go when really all I want to do is sit and cry. They have very kindly taken my girls with them to let me get some rest.

I feel guilty for taking it so badly when they are coping so well. Especially my mum who has lost her mother. I am only her grandaughter