Condolence card what to say?

[sarahh96]

Just heard that a distant family member has died and I'm in the process of writing a card.

I'm stuck!!!!

Got as far as "we are so very sorry to hear of the passing of........"

Now what? Saying, thinking of you at this very sad time seems a bit generic or is that ok?

I could put, "we have some very fond and happy memories of....." but then what???

I'm tying myself in knots here it needs to go in the post in the morning.

Any words of wisdom??? 🙏

I could put, "we have some very fond and happy memories of....." but then what???

Do you mean you can't think of any fond and happy memories? If you can, put those. And say something along the lines of we're thinking of you, sending much love/best wishes.

Is the card going to their spouse, child, friend…?

It's going to the husband.

This is what I've got so far:

"We are both so very sorry to hear about......"

We have very fond and happy memories of ...... at family events over the years. She will be very much missed.

We are thinking of you all at this very sad time."

Don't really want it to be longer than that but it's too "wordy" isn't it? Doesn't seem to flow right to me

I think he will just be grateful for the card tbh. Everyone struggles to know what would be best to say, it is hard as it all seems trite or overused, but any genuine sentiment is fine.

Is there anything specific you can out eg playing the piano at family events, reciting Victorian monologues, her amazing trifle?

I think that is absolutely fine.

@Rafting2022 yes! Her sense of humour. Thank you, I need to concentrate more on what she was like rather than purely what to write. Sort of lost sight of the person I was writing about. Will add the sense of humour but x

“So sorry to hear of XX’s passing. We’ll always remember her sense of fun/kindness to our family/love of cheating at Monopoly/whatever she did that was very her

Much love,
@sarahh96 “

When my parent died, the cards and messages that really touched me were those that felt true to the memory rather than polite phrases

I couldn't bear to read any of the condolence cards for mum or dad. No idea what people wrote.

Just receiving the card her DH will know she was loved.