Loss of a best friend

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My best friend of 23 years we have done so much together is in her last few weeks of life. Any books / counselling people can recommend? I’m so tired and ratty with my DD X 3 and DH and I can’t sleep. She’s been part of every element of my life since we were at uni together. Studied worked traveled dated lived together 3 separate times done literally everything together. I’m either numb or very snappy and my beautiful daughters (and DH) don’t deserve it. It also feels v lonely as none of our other uni friends are as close to her and I haven’t experienced loss of a best friend before nor know anyone who has

So so sorry to hear this. I lost my best friend 6 years ago. She was ill with cancer for 18 months. I miss her dreadfully to this day. She was so kind and clever and very very funny! We used to make each other snort with laughter. I saw her almost everyday as we lived very close by.

I don't know of any specific resources, but I wish I had recorded her more in video and audio. Sending love and support.

Try to be honest and open with your family. They will learn from your love of your friend.

Cruse offer 1-2-1 bereavement support. I’m so sorry your dear friend is dying. You can self refer to Cruse. There might be a little bit of waiting list in your area but they will be able to support you.

So sorry to read this. I don’t have relevant experience but I just wanted to say im so sorry for your troubles. Only love that is so well known and felt and lived can be so hard lost. Im so sorry. She will want you to live and thrive im sure 👌

I didn’t mean to do that weird hand emoji sorry!

My local hospice offered one to one followed by group counselling- the person I lost didn’t die in the hospice. I found it very helpful. Sorry for your loss.

So sorry op. I lost my best friend of 25 or so years in January. It's so very hard and most people don't really understand. A best friend is so different to just "a friend" and I don't think a lot of people understood why I was /am so upset.

I don't know about counselling. I'm still dealing with the grief in my own way mostly by crying in the shower or in the car where people can't see me. I miss her so much and think about her every day she still can't believe she's gone. I have nobody else to share my innermost thoughts with now as I'm not as close to my other friends. It's really hard. I want to text her all the time and really miss her advice. She was the only person who truly knew me.

So no advice as such but just wanted you to know that I understand how you are feeling. I assume it gets easier but I'm not feeling that yet.

Thank you all for your kind words xx