Pancreatic cancer

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My mum has just passed away from pancreatic cancer. She was only diagnosed 2 and a half months ago out of the blue and I am struggling to come to terms with it.
I feel she was let down by everyone and had other health issues to deal with at the same time. Even the specialist nurses havnt been answering my calls.
i just can’t believe she is gone

Sorry for your loss. Could you get some counselling? Was it quite advanced when she was diagnosed?

She was diagnosed at stage 4. It was picked up on a scan for something completely unrelated as she had no symptoms, although looking back there was vague symptoms that we put down to her other health conditions

I am so sorry for your loss, but this is sadly totally typical for pancreatic cancer. It is so vague that it is only diagnosed at stage four.
there is nothing anyone could have done to find it earlier.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 14 years ago to pancreatic cancer 6 weeks after diagnosis. It's such a cruel disease and took me a very long time to come to terms with it. We were just getting our heads round the diagnosis and then he was gone. I totally understand the feeling of being let down, I blamed the doctors for a very long time for not picking it up sooner. Eventually I realised the outcome may have not been different even if they had found it sooner, and it's just so notoriously difficult to diagnose, and massively underfunded. Take it one day at a time, these next few weeks and months will most likely be a complete blur 💐

I am so sorry for your loss. My Mum died of pancreatic cancer - about a month from diagnosis to her passing.

I’m sorry for your loss 💐my dad died from this. He was sick for ages- consultant said it was a stomach ulcer. He was yellow with jaundice and 8 stone and still having tests and treatment for a stomach ulcer.

He died two weeks after finally being diagnosed. They said he must have had it for years and was just very strong and fought the pain. I was quite young at the time. We knew something was wrong, but trusted the doctors.

I would see your G.P, maybe some grief counselling. It’s hard to come to terms with it when it’s so sudden and unexpected.

Thank you all for your messages. I think it’s just been such a rollercoaster of some highs and a lot of lows. I suppose it’s just about trying to come to terms with everything that has happened.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am going through this with a very close friend at the moment. Diagnosed 4 weeks ago and told that it is too late to do anything. So just a matter of time. It is a horrible disease and so unfair that it is often too late once it is picked up.

Thinking of you Londonnight. It’s a horrible disease, I hope your friend is comfortable and isn’t in any pain. That’s all we wished for with my mum and I think thankfully for the most part she was comfortable

Very gently, if there were no symptoms I don't think you can blame anyone for not picking it up sooner. I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss. Dad died at the end of March. It was just short of 3 weeks after diagnosis. It was so fast it was traumatic. Pancreatic cancer is a wicked thing but made worse in our case by some serious failings by the hospital.

I'm visiting my mum just now and I keep expecting him to walk in. It still doesn't feel real.

Dad's symptoms, like your poor mum, were put down to another condition. I'm glad your Mum was made comfortable. My Dad wasn't really. It was all to fast and it was truly awful for him and us.

I’m so sorry to hear that soheritissuddenly, I think my mum hid a lot of her pain too which didn’t help. When my mum was diagnosed stage 4 it was as if every doctor just gave up hope for her. It was just a rollercoaster of a little hope and a lot of lows, I think I just need time to process everything and learn to adjust to our new normal without her