Friend lost baby today at 39 weeks. What do I do?

[JODIEhavingababy]

My Best friend lost her baby today at 39 weeks pregnant, although she's still waiting to be induced. I'm not sure of the ins and outs, but another friend of ours is a midwife so she found out abit more. She's basically had to have a tablet today to stop the pregnancy hormone and go back in 2 days for her inducment.

Anyway, I don't know what do do for her. I'm 21 weeks pregnant myself, so I'm sure I'm the last person she wants to see at the moment, I have sent her a text to say I'm thnking of her and her boyfriend, but I'd like to buy her something ot do something, and I'm stuck to what..... If I call her I'll be in tears and I'm sure that is EXACTLY what she doesn't need now, anyway her DP, Mum and Dad are there at the moment.... What do I do without being to patronising?

Sorry for long rambling post, but I'm not thinking straight...

Jodie, so sorry to hear about your friend. I have a friend who lost a baby at 39 weeks a couple of years ago. She says the hardest thing was when she felt people avoided her, as they didn't know what to say. Much better to be honest and contact your friend as soon as possible, even if all you say is "I don't know what to say" !

The other thing is to make sure that you maintain the contact - even if you just leave a message and she doesn't get back to you, make sure you call at least once a week. In a month or so when everyone has gone back to their daily life your friend will need you more than ever - in my experience that is when the grief will really hit.

Probably best not to send flowers. Although the thought will be appreciated it will be another thing for her to have to deal with when she gets home from hospital.

A card is lovely as she can re-read it and the keepsake box is a lovely idea.

Right I think the general concensus is a box and a card.. any ideas where I can get a nice box from?

i saw some lovely boxes in WH Smith yesterday with beautiful patterns, some Laura Ashley, others more conventional boy/girl boxes. Tesco are selling some lovely boxes for Mothers Day - £5 I think. I remember getting one in Mothercare too. Finally John Lewis have some lovely gift boxes that are neutral in their stationery department.
I am thinking of you and your friend.

paperchase used to have nice boxes.
oliver bonas too
depends on her taste...habitat are bound to have something nice and simple.
indian wooden boxes are nice.

that any good ?

www.memoryhands.co.uk/baby_keepsake_boxes_and_books/Plain_Keepsake_Boxes.asp

ot this...these are lovely

www.freyadesign.co.uk/

Brill, there's alot to go on there. I'll wait and see what sex she has and what she calls her baby and have a look then, she's still not delivered yet.

Still no news, but I'mm looking back at all your posts. I'm sorry I didn't say this before, but my heart goes out to you all, there are so many sad stories out there and thanks to you all for sharing and making the last weekend abit more bearable for me, and when I get to talk to my friend I will point her in some direction to either mumsnet, or something similar as it really does help to share! xxx