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We lost my Dad today

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TeamsInterview · 01/08/2023 20:45

My fabulous dad , the heart of our family passed away today. He was diagnosed with a glioblastoma at the beginning of May. I'm in bed now and can't believe he's gone.

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hopelessmum1 · 01/08/2023 20:51

I'm really sorry.

MillWood85 · 01/08/2023 20:51

I'm so sorry. I lost my Dad in January, he had liver cancer and was dead in 5 months from diagnosis. Go easy on yourself, this is a long hard road. I felt really physically unwell for around 3 months after, couldn't eat or sleep and felt horrible. It does get easier, although learning to live without them is taking some doing. I still can't look at photos without crying, and I found a voicemail from him the other day - nearly broke me hearing his voice.

Take one hour at a time right now and keep drinking even if you can't eat Flowers

missfliss · 01/08/2023 20:53

Sending so much love.
My dad too has glooblastoma and is coming to the end of his life.

Huge hugs

TeamsInterview · 01/08/2023 20:58

Thank you, I'm so sorry you lost your dad too @MillWood85 , this has just been the worse day , he and my mum were married for 67 years, he's been the best dad ever. I feel numb now and my jaw is killing me , probably from being so tense. I'm exhausted but don't feel tired, my sister and I were up all last night with him.

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TeamsInterview · 01/08/2023 21:02

I'm so sorry @missfliss , we had dad at home because on Saturday he was eating fish and chips, Sunday morning we couldn't wake him and from then on it has been hellish , the palliative nurse said it was too dangerous to move him to the hospice, in hindsight I wish we'd insisted that he went because in all honesty, I'm traumatised by what I have seen. Xx sending you love and strength, it's an awful disease xx

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MillWood85 · 01/08/2023 21:06

@TeamsInterview my Dad went from home to a hospice and then a nursing home as we couldn't get a full care package in place due to his location. His death was awful, even on his last day he was still agitated and restless. I never imagined having to lose my rag with nursing staff hours before he died....

I think some deaths are just not peaceful full stop and it doesn't matter where they take place. And that takes a lot to live with Flowers

Rae36 · 01/08/2023 21:08

I'm sorry you've lost your dad. Our dads are so precious and always missed.

missfliss · 01/08/2023 21:17

I'm sorry @TeamsInterview - I'm still hoping for a good death for my dad - have to accept this might not be the case.
His is on his left temporal lobe - he's very tired a lot of the time now ( and swollen from the steroids).

Hope the good memories surface again soon and erase the trauma of his last days.

Huge hugs and support xxxx

livethislifetoday · 01/08/2023 21:41

Couldn't just read and run. So sorry for your loss and sending strength to you and your family x

Igmum · 02/08/2023 09:39

So sorry for your loss Flowers

Summer2424 · 02/08/2023 09:52

@TeamsInterview i'm so sorry for your loss 😔 xx

Spirallingdownwards · 02/08/2023 09:55

Sorry for your loss. I lost mine last year and still think about him every day

Alltheusernamesaretakennow · 02/08/2023 10:01

RIP, so sorry for your bereavement, lost my dad 2 years ago, and it was so hard...💐

Helbelle75 · 02/08/2023 11:36

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my lovely daddy in June, and it's still very raw.
Be very kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve.
My dad had a stroke 3 years before he died and lost the use of his right side as well as his speech. Whenever I think of him, I picture the pre -stroke daddy, fit and well, and I hope your good memories of your dad fine to the fore.

lemonyellows · 02/08/2023 11:51

So sorry you have lost your dad. It is so very hard. Xx

uncomfortablydumb53 · 02/08/2023 11:59

I'm so sorry for your loss
You'll be in complete shock for a while so treat yourself kindly
My DF had 9 weeks from diagnosis to his passing so I do understand

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