Should DD go to FIL funeral?

[chicaguapa]

FIL has died and DD is 6.5yo. She knew her grandad, saw him regularly but wasn't emotionally close to him. I'm not sure whether she should have the option of going to the funeral at her age? DS is 3.5yo and he won't be going.

might be a good introduction to death if she wasn't that close to him

if you see where i am coming from?

having the same dilema with my ds. He is 6.5 too and his cousin died on thursday. I have decided to take all four of my DC's. I don't really know how he will react though.

DH has said he'd prefer for her not to go and a close family friend can take the DC somewhere nice. I think I should give her the choice whether to go and cross my fingers that she chooses not to. The Winstons Wish website is a good place to look for advice and other ways to say goodbye.

Didn't take my DD who was 7 to my mum's funeral even tho' she wanted to go because I knew I would not be able to look after her and me. I wanted to howl and wouldn't have felt able to if she was there. It was the right decision for us. I think your DH needs to be able to have the final say because he needs to be able to grieve ; if he's worried that he might upset your dd if he breaks down then it might be better for her not to go.

Didn't take my DD who was 7 to my mum's funeral even tho' she wanted to go because I knew I would not be able to look after her and me. I wanted to howl and wouldn't have felt able to if she was there. It was the right decision for us. I think your DH needs to be able to have the final say because he needs to be able to grieve ; if he's worried that he might upset your dd if he breaks down then it might be better for her not to go.

Agree with ohnoherewego,we got the lo's to release ballons with letters and pictures they had done for nanny or grandad attatched