Found out last month that my stepdad, who is in his late 60's and was otherwise fit and well, has metastatic cancer. Started as muscle pain, and it seems that overnight it went from that to to being told it was multiple tumours and there was nothing they could do and he's got a few more weeks at most. They came to visit in early May, when he said he was having scans. Looking back I think he knew at that point we wouldn't see him again and he was saying goodbye.
They live abroad so we haven't been able to visit and the impression I've got is that they don't want us to, and my mother has said clearly she doesn't want to talk about it so I'm reduced to sporadic text messages and have very little info. I don't really know how to handle it, I don't know how to tell my children, I feel so upset for him, he's a nice bloke, he's nicer to my kids than my mum is. Just ugh. Total ugh.