Let’s remember our Fathers

[mrsbyers]

My first Father’s Day without my Popsie tomorrow and finding it hard - shops full of gifts and cards and found myself naturally thinking oh Dad would love that and having to remind myself he’s gone.

Thought a safe space to remember would be nice for all of us in the same position.

My dad had Parkinson’s , last summer was a blur of hospital admissions and discharges til finally he contracted urinary sepsis and had just had enough , he passed away with my mam , me and my brother by his side - I had literally got back to the hospital 5 mins before that. I’m so grateful he waited for me and I got to witness his escape from suffering , Popsie Pete I will never stop loving you x

I am glad you were able to be with him. Mine died 8 weeks ago also sepsis but he was out a theme park with his grandkids 10 days before his death and it was sudden. We werent there and it was a horrible ending.

We miss you so much Dad, I am so so sorry we werent with you to tell you how loved you were. We are taking care of Mum and she is ok but missing you terribly. We will love you forever x

Sorry for your loss. I’d like to say Father’s Day gets easier, but it doesn’t, but I remember my lovely Dad all the time. I watched Sugarbabes on TV live from The Isle of Wight Festival on Friday and remember my dear Dad loved them, had a little cry, but I have so many great memories.

My dad's been gone 7 years and still miss him terribly. I've had a very rough year and would just love to sit in the garden with him and have a long chat.

thank you starting thread. My lovely dad died 3 months ago. It was also his birthday yesterday so a tough weekend. He had a sudden brain injury many years ago and didn’t remember anything after that (including me), so I lost him many many years ago. I absolutely adored him, he was amazing and I model my parenting on how he cared for me. I talk about him to my children any chance I get. He worked for the nhs and had a card holder for his ID card on his lanyard- I work for the nhs now too and use his card holder for my Id card on my lanyard, no one knows and I love having it with me every day x

For all of us and our beloved Dads today

I am off to church with my Mum (aside from Dads funeral I have not set foot in church for many years) and then Mum and I are going to my DBros for a BBQ so hopefully a distraction for the day. Hopefully the sun will shine down on us and we can remember them without too much pain x

Lost my lovely dad 34 years ago when I was 14. I would love have him around still ❤️

This is my 6th Father’s Day without my lovely dad. Still miss him and think about him every day.

My dad died aged 54, 24 years ago this month. He was a fun dad and would have been a great grandad. Never got the chance.
Remembering him today with fond memories. X

My Dad has been dead for a decade (and my Mum for a bit longer). I've just had a slightly terse exchange with DH who doesn't seem to quite grasp why I don't want to go to the party that one of his sibling's is holding this afternoon where their parents and his 2 siblings' parents in law will all be in attendance. I may have "got over it" in the sense that I'm not sat around crying all day but that doesn't mean that I want to spend Fathers' Day playing happy families with other people's Dads, and I know from previous experience that nobody will even acknowledge that my Dad ever existed. Not stopping him going of course and the kids are welcome to go too if they wish but I'm going to stay at home, wash school uniforms and clean the bathroom.

Thanks for this thread. This is the first Father's Day without my Dad. The anniversary of his death is on Tuesday. I miss him and love him so much it hurts. He had COPD so we knew it was coming but didn't make it any easier. I wish I could talk to him again, he was the best at giving advice. I talk to his photo regularly and it helps a tiny bit.
Sending you all lots of love.

Same here. My 34th Father's Day without him. The first was just six weeks after he died and I had to listen to all of my school friends planning their treats for their fathers with no acknowledgement of my loss.

I'm grateful every day that my DC have reached adulthood with their dad still around (and he's a great dad!) so I can celebrate father's day for him through them.

Thank you for starting this thread. My first father's day without my DDad. It was his birthday on Friday and the anniversary of his death in a couple of weeks so a pretty tough time. He was 71 and had a fatal heart attack. It was so sudden and none of us were there with him. Just awful. DH has been great today and said I can just ignore the day but we did breakfast in bed with the kids earlier. The rest of the day will be filled with normal everyday things and keeping busy. It's nice to have a space to remember him x

I lost my dad two and a half years.ago. He was 89 but it was so horrendous that I can still barely think about it. This is the first time I've really said anything about it. It was during massive covid restrictions and it was so difficult visiting in hospital. He had a massive bleed on the brain and lived for about ten days in hospital but in a terrible state. I had to make the decision to withdraw treatment - strongly pushed that way by the hospital. I wasn't with him when he died. I feel I let him down in every way though I know he would never have recovered. I loved him but I can't think or talk about him because it was all so painful abd still is.

My lovely Dad has been gone 3 years. I miss him terribly. I now have a young son and my husband is a wonderful father to him so we do still celebrate the day but I miss my own Dad and wish I could tell him again how much I love him.

Sending love to anyone who has gone through the loss of a loving father.

Remembering my dad today who I lost 5 months ago.
Have really struggled the past couple of weeks. Today feels very strange. He would normally pop over on a Sunday and I'm really missing his presence.
Love to all who are going through this today.

Thanks for the thread OP. My father died in 2012 and my son’s father (my ExH) died in 2014. I have been thinking about them both today. It’s a mixed bag of memories that’s for sure. It’s a difficult day for a lot of us. Love to all on this thread ❤️

So sorry for all your losses. My dad has been gone for nearly five years now and there's not a day when I don't miss him and his wonderful storytelling, his humour, and his adoration of his grandson - they were like a pair of naughty boys together. It's my mum's birthday today too - she's been gone nearly 18 years and never got the chance to be a grandmother to my DS, which breaks my heart because she would have been the best gran imaginable.

6th Father's day for me without my Dad. Pancreatic cancer got him at just 64. He'd lived after diagnosis for years, because it was caught early, so I always say he was one of the lucky ones (pancreatic cancer is one of the worst cancers with survival rates, so he was lucky to live for a few years (i think it was 4 or 5) rather than what is usually just months). I have a 17 month old son now and it is hard to think of what he's missed. He met most of his grandchildren but he didn't meet mine, which will always sting.
Sending my love to all of you in the same boat.💙

It's been 4 months since my Dad passed. He passed in just over three weeks from diagnosis of lung cancer with liver mets. I'm absolutely lost without him.

Today is so difficult, sending love to everyone that's missing their Dad today.

Similar here. I still think about him a lot.

Joining you all

This is my 2nd Fathers Day without my Dad. He was nearly 84 so had a good long time on the crust of this Earth and it was so heart warming to hear little anecdotes and stories from his friends, neighbours and fellow Church goers .

Wonderful grandad to my two DC

He always said that "every day was daughters day"

Thinking of everyone missing their lovely Dads today. My wonderful Dad passed away last July from sepsis quite suddenly so this is our first Fathers Day without him. He had a sweet tooth and his gifts would always include a box of his favourites. Seeing them in the shops these last few weeks has been hard. I was lucky to have 50 years with my wonderful, kind, loving Dad but I’ll miss him forever. Sending love to anyone struggling today x

I can relate to that @Februarystars1
I used to take my Dad a bag of licorice allsorts every time I visited him and I haven't bought a bag since he died. It's little things like that that still get to me now in fact, even after a lot of years. Time is a healer, it's true, but the healing is never quite complete. But then as the saying goes, grief is the price we pay for love.I'm grateful to have so much to miss as I know not everyone has.

My heart goes out to you..I remember my 1st fathers day in hospitality was so so hard.It hit me harder than his funeral.
6 yrs on since we lost him to cancer it is much easier.
One of my last proper conversations with dad was about kingfishers,he was a keen photographer and said I must see one.
Last week on holiday we were by a river and dh and myself saw one.!
I took it as a sign from Dad and it made my day.😍

Thank you for this thread. I searched to see if there was one because I’m really struggling today. I lost my dad nearly twenty years ago when I was a teenager, he was only 50. I’ve been fine on Father’s Day for the last few years but it’s really hit me this year for some reason. I’ve kept it to myself all day but dh has gone up to game and I found myself in floods of tears.
Sorry to all of you who have lost your dads too, and if this is your first Father’s Day without him, it does get easier. I’m not always like this on Father’s Day, I think maybe it’s the twenty year milestone? And my young dc asking me lots of questions about where he is :(. I’m also feeling guilty because I’m rubbish at visiting his grave, and didn’t manage it today either.