Coping with losing 2 people in less than 24 hours

[Pinkfluffyunicornsandrainbows]

Two days ago I suffered the loss of 2 family members who I love dearly. My heart was already shattered at the first loss and spending all day/night in the hospital watching my loved one suffering. Then to hear the news of my other loved one dying its all become too much to be honest. I know how to grieve one person but not 2. The second was someone I had been helping out as he was in his 90's and he lived alone after his wife of 70 years passed away 2 years ago. My heart is doubly broken from losing both of them. I'm sure others have experienced similar, how did you cope? How do you grieve 2 people who died in 24 hours at once? It's just so close, not even a few weeks or months to start to accept and cope with the first loss. Any help would be appreciated. Sorry for rambling on.

How sad and awful for you. I hope you are okay and that you recover from the shock soon. Grieving will take time so be kind to yourself. I hope the lovely memories you have of these people will be a comfort to you.

I lost two close friends in a terror attack
There was hope for one for a little while but I suppose the initial news - they were travelling together - meant I sort of knew the inevitable in one go

All I can say is, on one level, the shock is horrendous. On another level, it is protecting your brain until you are ready for however you feel next.

Physically you might feel freezing cold. Try to wrap up warm and drink sugar things eg fruit smoothie if you can't eat. I believe it has a good effect or stress hormones in extremis.

Is someone looking after you? I live alone but my neighbours were very kind and just sat with me.

gentle hugs if you want them.

@Houseplantmad @EmmaEmerald
Thank you so much for your kind words and advice, it's really appreciated.
So sorry for your loss @EmmaEmerald that must have been absolutely heartbreaking and such a huge shock. I hope you are coping as well as can be.
I have my DH and children supporting me.

Both my parents died within. 12 hours of each other. First expected from aggressive cancer, second was a shock. Heart event leading to inter cranial bleed. The shock stills the very air. Your world collapses as the world around goes on. It’s the strangest place. Let the storms of grief come as they come. It’s okay to cry and not know what to do. It’s okay to ask others for help and use takeaways, ready meals or similar to get through. it’s okay to take time from work and cancel plans. It’s okay to have moments when you smile and laugh between the tears. All you can do is take one shaky step after another, get through one hour after another. rest when you can, do what gives a moment of respite from pure grief from a hobby to a walk. It’s hard and it really will take time as you adjust to the absence of the new normal but most will find a way to carry the grief of loss and love with no one to physical hug in the way that is right for them. Look after and be kind to yourself and go at the speed you need to.

@triballeader I feel this pain, it sits very close to home.
My mum died on the 31st Aug 2006 from lung cancer, she'd had it for less than a year, was told it was terminal, so we where kind of prepared. She passed at 8.30 on that Thursday morning in Hull. I had a phone call from family in Ipswich (my parents where divorced but still good friends) my dad had been taken to hospital, everything was, as me and my brother where not serious and that he was ok. The Friday morning we had an call to say, we needed to get to the hospital as dad had took a turn (our family in Ipswich had informed him our mum had passed the day before) we drove down on the Saturday morning. On the way we have to go over the Humber Bridge and as we drove passed a young man had jumped and taken his life. It was one of the most horrific things I've ever seen. This was 2006 and it still stays with me today.
We needed up visiting dad to be told he was riddled with cancer, and that he'd not told anyone and refused any treatments. We went back to his house to sort some things out for him amd recieved a call from the hospital after a couple of hours to tell us dad has had a massive heart attack and passed away. This was Saturday 2nd September 2006
It was a total shock as that wasn't what he went to hospital for. I truly truly believe he died from a broken heart after hearing about our mum.
@Pinkfluffyunicornsandrainbows this will be the toughest time of your life my love, but you will get through it. I never thought it could ever be easier, losing both parents in such a short space of time. Seeing that man take his life. I was and still am so grateful I had my partner and 2 children to help me, keep me going. I honestly don't yhink I'd be here if it wasn't for them. Do you have a good support network? You'll find the next months pass in a blur, you'll remember them fondly and then one you'll just catch yourself and think "I haven't thought about them in a couple of days" you'll feel guilt like I did, but it's then that you know it's getting easier and you're coming to terms with it.
I'll never ever stop missing my mum and dad, especially as they where so young too (48 & 50) I'm almost this age now and think it was so unfair.
Big big hugs to you and here if you need to talk xxx