Strange events since my mum died

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Just want to preface this by saying I am a complete cynic, a total atheist and having see my mums body I am absolutely under no illusions.

but something odd just happened.

I was having a crafty nap and I woke up because somebody has just been in to check on me and as they left, the door closed softly. It was definitely open when I went for a read.

it wasn’t my husband and son - they were gardening and haven’t been in the house.

it’s so comforting….. yet….. I don’t believe in this sort of thing. But somebody definitely came to check on me.

At the same time a blackbird who always appears when I’m upset outside was, according to my husband, hopping along the bedroom window sill. In fact he had taken a photo to show me and it’s time stamped as the same time I woke up.

the door was closed properly and it didn’t swing shut, no breeze, nothing.

odd?

This is very true.

I used to work with older people in healthcare and I’ve had widows say to me “I don’t believe in ghosts but I saw my dh after he died on the sofa smiling at me” it happened to my gm too.

Lots of things have happened to me since dh died.

That’s lovely. ❤️

I think this too. Dad died 5 weeks ago today and I keep saying just give me sign. Yesterday morning I got up and there was a white feather next to my kettle and this morning one laid on my front doorstep when I got back from shopping. I know the most likely answer is it complete coincidence but hell if it makes me feels better I will take it! How lovely OP to have had that and I am glad you are feeling a bit better. Grief sucks.

My children’s father died end of March, funeral was this Thursday just gone. I was on my phone lying on my side in bed at 3am on Saturday morning and felt a finger poke me in the back of the shoulder I looked behind me but no one was there.

When my daughter and I went to do the death declaration for the death certificate the registrar said before we left ‘has anyone ever told you you look like Jamie Lee Curtis’, I said ‘funny you should say that as the only person who has EVER said that to me was Adrian’, it was well over 10 years since he had said that and no one else since has ever said that to me, it was so strange.

I'm not woo at all and I get friends looking at me very weirdly when I tell this story but here goes...
After my mum died last summer I forced myself to go to my regular dance class. I was bumbling along dancing and then I thought about how my mum had never seen me dancing and felt a bit teary. (OK, weird alert) Then a butterfly came in through the window of the hall right near me. It was big and black and I've never seen one like it. It sat on the windowsill right above my head. Then it flew right towards me, making me stop and hold my hand out, then all around the room and then it came back to the windowsill and stayed there for ages. It freaked me out a bit and I tried not to look at it. When I finally looked up it had gone. I'm not sure I felt comforted but I definitely felt like something had just happened...

My mother died last November, having lived in a care home for 5 years.
She was a classically trained musician so in part of the house that gets used frequently there's her grand piano & other instruments.

Quite a few times I've been walking past & smelt Nina Ricci's 'L'air du Temps' which was the perfume that she always wore. It's in the air, you can walk through it until it fades. I've sniffed everything & drawn a blank.

I thought I was going mad. I went away & the cat sitter was visiting twice daily. When we did the post-holiday feline debrief, she mentioned that she'd smelt a lovely smell by the piano. She also sniffed around & couldn't find the source, it was just in the air.
I'd not mentioned it to her nor had she ever met my mother.

So are we mad? I've been in the house since she went into the home in 2017 & it's never happened before.
I like to think she's reminding me to get the piano tuned...

I'm feeling a little spooked at the moment but also quite comforted. My mum had a severe stroke on 28 June last year and died three weeks later. The last time I saw her before the stroke was exactly a year ago today, and I would have left her at about 1 when I took her to the dining room for her lunch in her care home. I've posted earlier on this thread about finding white feathers everywhere after she died, and the number of them has really tailed off over the last three months or so. I've been gardening this morning, and have been feeling very sad with the anniversaries coming up. I've been dragging a big garden waste bag round with me to put the weeds in, which was quite full, and as I got up at 1 o'clock to take it out to the bin, there was a big white feather sitting on the top 😳. I've always been the most sceptical person in the world about things like this, but the events of the past year have made me feel quite differently about it.

I've had some odd things like this happen.
Woke up one morning to find that my phone was on the other side of the room (I had left it charging beside my bed, as always when I went to sleep). It's of course possible that I got up and moved it but AFAIK I've never sleepwalked or done weird stuff in my sleep. Anyway, later that day, my maternal Granddad died - on the same day that my grandma (his wife) had died years earlier.

Another time, I'd just found out my mum had advanced cancer and was in a bit of a state. I walked into my bedroom and found the picture above the mantlepiece had come off the wall on one side, despite the fittings still being secure - it would have had to be lifted off the hook, and neither I nor my husband had done it. Husband had been working next door and hadn't heard a bang from it falling either.

My dad was a complete non-believer but woke one day and saw this old lady standing by the bed, looking down at my mum. Rational explanation is he was still half-dreaming. Anyway, two days later, mum's mum (my Grandma) died.

I think I'd be less inclined to believe these things were woo if I hadn't had a couple of other experiences that genuinely were inexplicable - like there really was no possible rational explanation.

Had lots of minor things soon after dad died, special songs in shops, mention of a rare hobby of his on the tv which I didn’t even know had a name for it, various other things too. Just little signs that were comforting to both mum and I.

However, when mum died there was nothing. I asked for a sign. The night before her interment she came to me in a dream but it felt so much more than a dream. We had a total two way conversation. She told me things that were important to me and meant a lot.

After the interment I sat on the bench by their grave by myself after everyone else had gone. I love ducks and I heard the loudest quacking you have ever heard and a female mallard was flying to the cemetery, she circled the cemetery and out of nowhere a male mallard appeared and they flew round and then disappeared into the distance together. I have had mallards that appear on special occasions at the cemetery such as Mother’s Day.

Also get robins coming up close.

I’m not religious but do now believe in something spiritual happening there.

Very sorry to everyone who has lost a loved one. Over ten years for me now, the pain itself doesn’t diminish when you think about it but time does help a lot as it doesn’t take up your every waking thought. Many of those thoughts become happy memories and normal things become normal again.

I’m sure you’re all aware of the Robin theory.

My father passed last September and my mum in February. Both quite sudden and although a ‘good age’, they were relatively well prior to their passing.

After dad died, I saw a single robin in the garden - never noticed before. I’m an avid bird feeder so often spend time watching birds fly in, feed and fly off.

The day after mum passed, a robin landed on the fence, followed by a second one.

Id never ever seen two together and I sat and sobbed as I spoke to them.

I like to think it was mum and dad, reunited just popping by to say Hello.

The evening of the day my Mum died all the lights in my house upstairs and down were flashing. No issues with the fuse board and has never done it since

When I 'viewed' my dad in his coffin, I asked him if he was there, and if he was, could he give me a sign. The lights in the funeral home started to flicker and I am sure it was my dad. The timing was exact.

My mum died on Friday, just 5 days ago, and I believe she has already sent me a sign. The day before she died, we talked about music for her funeral and she was clear on a particular song. I was driving her car on Saturday (a thing we both agreed would help me feel close to her) and the song came on the radio. I haven't heard it on the radio for many years.

They symbolize angels x

I was with my Mum as she died and the last thing I said to her as she passed away was that I’d see her back home ( she was in hospital). We went back to the family home and it instantly felt as if she was there. There was a wind chime next to the door and despite it being a still day it started to move and chime which I felt was a sign from her she was with us. That feeling was always in the house when I visited and I had the sensation I was being warmly hugged several times. Dad sadly became seriously ill almost immediately and I spent lots of time there with him. He died just a year later but from that day on the house just felt empty. I like to think she waited for him and that once he joined her they left together. Probably all in my head but, whatever the cause, the effect has been very comforting through the hard times.

We had something like this happen when my lovely granny passed away.

On the morning of her funeral, we were all at her house because the hearse and cars were going to pick us up from there. We were waiting in the living room and a seagull landed on the windowsill outside and was pecking at the glass. It was so surreal that I still feel like I must have dreamt it, but we were all there and all remember it. It really spooked my uncle. I do remember thinking that I’d thought Granny would have been a ‘nicer’ bird than a seagull, but I’ve never seen that happen before or since, so I do like to think she was coming back to see us.

I am not woo at all .a total non believer.
My BL died ,and the family were trying to choose Songs for the service.
We all agreed that stairway to heaven would Have been his choice. But we had to choose another song as that song is approx 9 minutes long and to cut it short would be wrong.
In the day of his funeral we got in to the car to drive the 9/10 minutes it takes to get the cremation.
Turned on the radio in the car to the opening bars of Led zeppelin,stairway to heaven .
The full version as the radio host was needing the loo and needed a long song for that.
We were all smiles for the journey.it was perfect .
Absolutely a coincidence,but for that moment,we all agreed that it was all BLs doing .

@SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName did it being you comfort with your dad? I want so much to believe my mum was just saying she loved me and goodbye but I struggle and feel like she was scared and asking for help.

@Cocopogo I can't know for sure, as there's no answer, but I would interpret this as your mum trying to reach out to reassure you that she was ok and it's ok to let her go. We can't know, but that's how I would read it.

I had recently lost my darling mum when I was asked to accompany my sister, in place of our mum, to help choose my niece's wedding dress. I was honoured to be asked but very sad that mum had missed out on this important occasion as she would have enjoyed it enormously and would have had a very definite opinion on the different dresses. We'd been to many shops without success, when we went into a new shop and my niece emerged from the changing room in the most gorgeous dress. As the three of us filled up and said that was the one, a particular song came on the speakers in the shop. The song was one my mum danced to at line dancing every week. I used to pick her up from her class and every week, when she got in the car, she was singing this song as it was the last song they played at the end of the session. I just knew this was mum giving her sign of approval for that dress. I shouted out "nana likes it too" to my niece but when I explained why to them, both my sister and niece looked at me as if I was crazy. In fact, typing this out has made me think of the song and ive just realised it contains the words "you're the one", which makes me believe even more in it being a message from my mum.

This is so comforting to read. I agree with others who say that we don't understand everything.
My favourite analogy is the insects. They go about their lives, and I am fairly sure they don't perceive humans because they're not equipped to do so. Could it be that we too are not equipped to perceive some things?

It really did comfort me. I hope you can also find some peace

I 100% believe this was your Mother, but then I believe in spirits and have a whole set up for my ancestors with candles and what not 😅

When my grandad died (my grandparents practically raised me) I got two white feathers right outside my door. My grandma died over a decade earlier, and two white feathers can symbolise two spirits being reunited. I kept the feathers.

I believe it was your Mum coming to check you were OK. I had similar with my Dad, and it was lovely to feel his presence again.

A few days after my second parent passed, I was in their lounge which was pretty empty. I left the room, came back in, and there were two white feathers curled around each other on the wooden floor. No one else was there or had been in the house, and there was no bedding or moulting cushions nearby. No breeze or draught. It must have been a sign that they were reunited - I can’t think how else the feathers would’ve got there.

The day before I went to mums house for her funeral the next day. Her tumble drier was switched off but flashing. It had been off for about two months so not sure why it would suddenly flash while off after all that time. I'm pretty sure that is where she died as she was found by the police. I turned it on and then off again. It was definitely off.