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A friend/acquaintance just died, what should I do?

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IceIceBabyBump · 10/05/2023 11:28

I lady I know through dog-walking died suddenly and unexpectedly last week.

Her husband just came over to tell me and DP.

He asked me to help with the dog if/when he needs to pop out. He also asked if we could help with technology-related stuff but didn't elaborate on what specifically.

I said he should call/text me anytime for anything, not just dog or technology-related help.

We only know the couple through dog-walking but we always exchange Christmas cards and they really are lovely people.

I don't know what else to do for him but 'call me anytime' just feels quite hollow.

I've read on here that preparing meals can be helpful when people are bereaved, but is it intrusive to just rock up at his house with food considering we don't actually know him that well?

Would a card be appropriate?

They don't have children or any family so this chap is really alone ATM. I work at home and quite flexibly so I really can help out a lot. But I know that people experiencing bereavement don't always want to reach out and ask for help.

It might be relevant that they're in their late-60s, me and DP are late-30s.

Thanks for any help you can give me!

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dinmin · 13/05/2023 10:58

They! Not he! (My dog is male so default sorry!)

IceIceBabyBump · 15/05/2023 10:41

Thank you @dinmin Don't worry, the dog's treats were an absolute given!

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