One of my parents died suddenly a few years ago. I was devastated.
Afterwards started looking after other parent for years - cleaning / shopping / going out for meals
Then whilst cleaning house I found the will of my deceased parent which excluded me completely. Utterly devastated
While I know we were not close there was no major fallout. The parent left has always been very difficult and bitter about life favouring my sibling.
I also strongly suspect the change was due to my wealthy sibling buying a house they rented. My parents spent a considerable sum doing the property up as it was in a poor state.
My other parent has now died.
I had no contact with them after finding the will as I feel it’s an ultimate betrayal. Parents don’t do this to their children unless they’re bad people - we are not !
Ive been ok with my sibling but increasingly feeling they should at least offer to repair the damage by bequeathing something from the will. Even if it’s to my children. I may not even accept but it’s the offer that absolutely counts.
My sibling has had a new car and having building works done all in the space of a few months
Many people say they’re surprised I’m talking to him and I am myself sometimes but my parents were full of bitterness and complexity my head doesn’t want things to be like that.
However my heart is brutally damaged and feels differently
There was never an inkling they hated me….. we would see each other, we would exchange gifts and get together on occasions so it’s all really hard
I loved them but I don’t understand their version of love and certainly the messages they have left me with 😞