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Sisters anniversary she was 33 yrs old

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pontipinemum · 26/04/2023 15:56

My sister's anniversary is today, she is gone 8 years and was only 33 when she died of cancer 😞when she was sick I never really thought she was going to die. It was awful though. It started as a lump in her leg which originally said was benign but turns out it was malignant for years. She didn't go back until she felt ill years later.
They cut it out, but it was absolutely everywhere.

She married her long term partner in the hospice, she went in there for what was supposed to be a few days but never came home.

She said the hardest part was telling her two boys she had to leave them.

It's just so unfair, she was 'good' health wise. She didn't smoke, hardly drank, didn't do sun beds or sun bathing but still got melanoma.

My grandmother who raised me died 1 year and 1 day before her, cancer as well.

Sometimes I think I'll tell them x but remember I can't even after all this time.

It does get easier, well it has for me anyway I fell apart at the start but I am together again now even though I do still miss them a lot.

If you've made it this far thanks for listening to my rambling, I'm crying now which always give me a headache. 1 hour til work is over. Then collect DS and snuggle. Well he won't want that, active little fella.

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Bumble84 · 26/04/2023 16:01

💐 cancer is cruel. Do you know any to share a nice memory of your sister?

JeanieJo · 26/04/2023 22:24

So sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. How unfair that she died so young. :( The grief must be very raw on the anniversary. It sounds like you loved her very much. Sorry also about your grandmother. A lot of memories all around the same dates. Very hard.

Beachcomber74 · 30/04/2023 00:09

So sorry for your loss. How are your nephews?

apapuchi · 30/04/2023 01:15

I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely sister. The pain never goes away and it isn't fair, sending love and strength.

Luredbyapomegranate · 30/04/2023 01:51

It’s really hard OP. Thanks for telling us about her

WineIsMyCarb · 30/04/2023 02:00

Didn't want to read and run
Thinking of you and virtually sitting with you (if that's possible). Flowers

Fedupofdiets · 30/04/2023 08:40

Sending love OP it must be incredibly tough to lose a sibling, especially so young Flowers

Dontjudgeme101 · 30/04/2023 08:42

💐💐💐

SallyWD · 30/04/2023 08:45

I'm so sorry for you. The pain be er leaves, does it?
Cancer is always cruel but when it gets a young parent it seems particularly awful. My DD's friend has just lost her mum to breast cancer. She's 10 years old. It breaks my heart.

NurseCranesRolodex · 30/04/2023 08:50

Sorry OP, it's really hard dealing with and processing grief. The time may come when you can enjoy and celebrate some of the happy times, it's not always possible to do. Enjoy the good memories too of your DS 💐.

VegemiteSammich · 30/04/2023 08:58

Sending you squishy hugs from across the ditch, and some cake for you both 🍰 🍰

pontipinemum · 02/05/2023 09:40

Thank you for all your kind messages. I had a very rough few days. It just hit me really hard this year. I think it is because it was my 1st time having the anniversary has a mum myself.

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