Anything else I need to bring for dads funeral tomorrow?

[MrsTopaz]

so.. I have (many) packs of tissues, my reading printed out double spaced in a poly pocket thing… is it customary to tip anyone? We have the wake sorted.. outfit is ready, shoes polished. A small amount of easy food to share beforehand as it’s not until early afternoon. I think that’s it. Was there anything else you took with you that you found helpful on the day? I have thought about a hip flask but can’t find it. Absolutely dreading it.

So sorry x

Umbrella?

Plus all your normal handbag stuff (purse, glasses ect) - I often forget the basics when I’m thinking of other things.

Mints or sweets helped me through the ceremony

I had to take a Xanax. Thankfully my friends rallied round and I'd already met the priest the day before to go through the service. While talking with him I started shaking uncontrollably so tested a Xanax in advance to see how long it took to kick in and how it affected me.

I echo mints or (small) boiled sweets. I have unfortunately been to several funerals of very close family (Mum when I was 16) best friend recently.

They seem to keep the panic rising. I favorite an extra strong mint.

I'm sorry for your loss, it's mega shit.

Paracetamol, I ended up with a bad headache. Strepsils. Good luck and sympathy xx

Sorry for your loss.
I took spare contact lenses and mascara. (Not sure if that applies to you). Think I had cash / card to put money behind the bar.
I really hope all goes as well as it can

Sorry for your loss OP. How about a bottle of water?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You will be exhausted so sugary sweets eg jelly babies for energy or barley sugar to calm. Maybe a single berocca wrapped in a tissue just in case. Sunglasses.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a black pashmina which comes in handy at funerals, it’s almost a bit of a comfort blanket. I am sure you will do your dad proud, good luck.

anti-anxietys
painkillers, headaches can creep up at times like this
lots of love x

Depending on what you are wearing, spare tights.

(Sorry, hit post too soon).

I've never know anyone be tipped at a funeral. If you have a moment you can thank the officiant and funeral director but you'd be completely forgiven if you don't manage to.

And I'd stay away from the hip flask. Wait until the wake and make sure you have someone lined up to drive you home so you can have even one drink - I'm not implying that you should plan to get plastered, but it's afterwards when reality hits home.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you all for sharing, really good ideas. Will bring a little makeup to refresh before wake, and brolly (so important as it’s going to rain this afternoon), got spare tights and will save any drink for the wake (have transport all sorted). Thank you so much feel more prepared now.

Knew there was more.. sunglasses-definitely, paracetamol-yes great idea for me or anyone that needs it and water-can take some sips to help me when I do the reading. Thank you x.

How did it go @MrsTopaz - hope you are doing ok xx

Thank you @CrapBucket, it went really well. It poured with rain (had brolly thanks all) which felt quite poetic really. A sad but beautiful day.