Funeral Wednesday. I've got gastro

[Sohereitissuddenly]

I have caught a stomach bug from my son who was spectacularly sick on Friday night. He's fine now but I've just come down with it.

I was meant to drive to my mum's ready for Dad's funeral on Wednesday. I'm sick in bed and scared I won't be able to go.

I know I just have to see how I am but has anyone had to cope with missing their parent's funeral because they were sick? I can't bear the thought but I also can't drive if I feel like this tomorrow. It's hundreds of miles.

Is there nobody who could take you?

No. I don't think so. I don't have much support locally.. family are from elsewhere..I'm a lone parent
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What was your plan for the child are they going with you or someone watching them for you? Could you travel up on the train?

Is there a way of live streaming it? Is there anyone else to be there for your mum?

Am sorry for your loss 💐

Not sure someone will be keen to sit next to someone with a stomach bug in a car or train

Would Imodium help or is it not likely to be strong enough?

How long was your son sick for? What's the latest possible point you can leave?
I think if I was you I'd stay in bed, sleep as much as possible, leave it as late as I could and get on the road with sick bags if necessary. If you aren't eating, by tomorrow you shouldn't vomit any more surely..just little sips of water

Sleep drink water and sleep some more. Review tomorrow midday
So sorry. And there are also other ways to mark his death if you can't go to the funeral.. just try and sleep and rest.

So sorry for your loss.

Stick to the RICE diet and keep your fluids up- small sips are better than large gulps if you are still vomiting. Dioralyte taste foul but helps replace your electrolytes. Drinking it cold or sucking on ice blocks made from it a more tolerable. Bananas help bind up loose stools.

Is your son doing to? How is he doing now? Is the service being live streamed?

I know it feels horrendous, but you can only do what you can do and your mother wouldn’t want you to drive if you’re not fit to. I hope you feel better soon and I am very sorry for your loss

Honestly, if you've just come down with it, I think the odds of you being well enough to attend by Wednesday are very low. I had this last year and I couldn't leave the vicinity of the toilet for three to four days, and felt terrible for a week. I also think when we're emotionally drained, we take longer to recover from physical illnesses.

A lot of funeral directors learnt how to live stream during the pandemic. Given you're unwell, and you're such a close relative, give the funeral director a call. You never know, they might be able to arrange for you to attend remotely.

Figure out what is possible first, and then take it from there.

PS It goes without saying: I am so, so SO sorry for your loss.

I have my fingers crossed that you feel well enough to drive tomorrow. My mum’s funeral was when I was 39 weeks pregnant and I spent the three weeks leading up basically with my legs crossed because I couldn’t bear the idea that I’d have to miss it. If it comes to the worst and you don’t feel able to go, make sure that you’re kind to yourself. Un-MN hugs to you x

Thank you all.. Ds is coming with me. He recovered fast. It is poo not vomit for me, ds had both. Latest i could leave would be 6.30 am Wednesday.

I don't know about live streaming. I guess i could ask. My sibling will be there with mum

See how it goes, try immodium... I'd be inclined to think that you might make it

How are you this morning @Sohereitissuddenly?

@toomuchlaundry I think I'm a little better than yesterday..but stomach is still churning and I have cramps. I will just take it hour by hour I think. Thanks for asking.

I have made it here for funeral. Thank you for listening to me have a wobble..still feeling iffy but a lot better than yesterday.

Hope you feel better for tomorrow

Well done @Sohereitissuddenly. Get a good rest tonight - hope you’re feeling well enough tomorrow.

❤️