Sudden Loss of a Colleague

[ArianahX]

Hi I hope it's ok to post here, I've been feeling quite bad anyway as my Mum is very unwell, she has a large abdominal mass secondary to bowel cancer & is still waiting for a treatment plan, the stress of worrying about her has exacerbated my poor mental health as I have Schizoaffective disorder. But I'm trying to stay positive for her.
Then yesterday I was told that a close colleague has been killed in a car accident abroad with her family. I am so upset. Everyone on my unit at work is devastated although I'm not actually there, I'm off sick.
It's just such a cruel waste. She had everything to live for and was so lovely.
I think it's all messing with my head now.

I feel for you. You have a lot to contend with. Hand hold. Be kind to yourself.

Thank you for replying x

Oh no I'm sorry! Have you got someone, another colleague perhaps you can talk to irl? Can you go to work and drink a cup of tea with everyone?

Oh sounds like you're having an awful time. I lost a colleague suddenly, a few weeks ago. In early 40s with two young kids. Off sick for a few days and then just gone. It's so hard for everyone. You get endless jolts and reminders as you notice their absence in a meeting or their name against actions or work, or find emails from them.

Do recognise how you're feeling and be really good to yourself. It's going to stir up all sorts of emotions for you. 💐

I've had two deaths at work, one motorbike and one cancer. They are very upsetting even if they were just people you spoke to in passing

She was just a lovely girl so caring & smart with a good career ahead of her.. I envied her in a way I guess because she just had the perfect husband & child too, now they're just gone, She was always happy & giggling at something.
If i was worried about a patient she didn't mind me telling her even though I'm only an HCA & she would always go to review the patient or tell me not to worry.
I just can't bear to think that she doesn't exist anymore.

She sounds lovely. I'm really so sorry for your loss

How very sad. Did the whole family perish?

Hope you and your mum are ok

Hi yes it was her husband & little boy too, in Pakistan sadly. Her husband was a dr too who worked locally & I used to know him, he was nice too.
My mum is poorly, just waiting for the colorectal team to liaise with the surgeon who did her laparoscopic biopsies it seems to take forever!