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My wonderful mum died today

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aprildaffodil · 08/04/2023 00:18

My best friend, my incredible, lovely mum.
I'm only 28 and she was only 65. It was a very short battle with cancer that we sadly found out about too late. We were so blessed that she wasn't poorly and she was just tired, she tried her best to talk to us and joke with us before the medication eventually helped her to sleep after a couple of restless nights and she went peacefully in her own bed, in her own home surrounded with love.
I feel like my world has ended, I'm trying my best to stay strong for my family, I've been in charge of everything and it's so hard and so sad. I have a toddler who she absolutely adored more than anything, and I am devastated that she won't get more time to be a granny. I'm glad she wasn't poorly or in pain and she didn't suffer at all, but my god I want her back so badly. All I want is a hug from my beautiful mum.
We don't have many family or friends but I just wanted somewhere to acknowledge her and tell people what a wonderful mum and granny she was and she was so so loved by us all.
I feel like a part of me is missing and I don't know how I'm going to do this without her.

OP posts:
Bunnyhair · 11/04/2023 16:26

I am so sorry. What a shock and what a tremendous loss. She sounds like a wonderful mother, and she will have felt so loved by you.

Ooolaaaala · 11/04/2023 20:57

I am so sorry that this has happened to you so suddenly and so young. You must be in deep shock at this cruel blow.

It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship and you can keep on loving her deeply.

Mitzgerald · 11/04/2023 22:07

I'm so very sorry. I understand, I lost my mum under similar circumstances in January and she was 68. I have two young DDs too.

I completely get that you just want a hug from your mum. When you feel that overwhelming pain hug your DC, pour that love that you have for your own mum into your children for she is a part of you and you a part of them.

Coxspurplepippin · 11/04/2023 22:12

So very sorry to hear about your mum. She was obviously a very special person. It's an old adage, but grief is the price we pay for love.

You'll keep her memory alive. I know it doesn't seem likely now, but it does get easier to remember the joy, love and good times.

Wishing you strength over the coming days and weeks, and let yourself cry. Your Mum deserves it.

determinedtomakethiswork · 11/04/2023 22:14

I am so sorry you have lost your mum. She sounds like a wonderful woman and mother. You were very lucky to have her in your life.

💐

Wetnwindy · 11/04/2023 22:17

Am so sorry OP . You are so young to loose your darling Mum. Sending you lots of Mum hugs …they are such special people.X💐💐

Wishesa · 11/04/2023 22:22

Sorry for your loss. If we are lucky we have lovely Mums and it's heartbreaking to lose them. I lost mine in October and it still doesn't seem real BUT it becomes bearable. You will keep her in your heart forever.
I'm sorry not to have any words of comfort but keep posting here as there are lots of people better with words than me!

LittleEsme · 11/04/2023 22:55

Sending huge love and prayers Flowers

PurpleSunshineRain · 11/04/2023 23:05

Oh hun. I went through this a few months ago. I'm so sorry for your loss. That huge ball of raw pain you're feeling? It slowly, very slowly becomes less painful. It's always there but it becomes manageable. Keep those happy memories front and centre. Write down things she said. I have a little diary that helps me. Lean on those who show you love and support. Take care of yourself.

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