Grieving parent who did not love you

[KittyBurrito]

Please can I ask: does anyone here have experience of how to cope with a parent dying when the relationship was really poor. Parent is still alive but very elderly and frail now so, it's likely coming soon. This parent has made it plain they don't love me and never wanted a child - any relationship is pretty superficial and all about them. I go through the motions for the sake of the other parent, but that's about it. I thought I'd made my peace with that years ago but feeling very emotional recently. Any words of wisdom?

Thanks very much to all who have posted here. I really appreciate it. @BereavedSid a very unMumsnetty hug to you x

Maybe you are grieving for the parent you wished you had and the realisation that at this stage it'll not happen . Try and make peace with the idea that not everyone is equipped to be a loving parent . Whatever poor childhood you had it has somehow given you the ability to make a loving family of your own . Take heart in that , it really is enough .