My brother's birthday

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He died last June. He would have been just 42 today. I miss him so much. I'm not religious but I truly hope he is partying away and looking down on us all.

Sorry for your loss
I hope you’ve got a chance to sit and think about him, what he liked, what you did together. the loss is never fair but 42 feels very premature.

I'm sorry for your loss OP

Would you like to tell us about your brother?

@pizzaHeart thank you. I was WFH today as I didn't want to be crying all the office. I had some time time talk to my parents and family and think of him. He was such a lovely person, life is not fair.

@BluetheBear thank you. He was called Jon and was married with a little boy. He bravely fought cancer for five years and I was with him when he died. He was just a down to earth, top bloke. Kind to everyone and an incredibly loyal and caring person. I was so lucky to have him as a big brother. I'm just so sad that I have to live life without him.

He sounds lovely OP

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He does sound lovely! I'm so sorry for your loss. Life seems just so unfair at times.

@Newuser82 thank you. He was so lovely. Life is cruel when it takes the good ones way before their time! I visited his grave at the weekend and it was hard. My 5 year old daughter gave it a kiss though which was very sweet. I just wish she could have him in her life, he was such a brilliant uncle.

I remember your thread at the time, so full of love for your brother and so much pain at his loss. He sounds lovely and it sounds as though you had a wonderful relationship. I hope the memories bring you comfort, it is very unfair that you had to lose him so young.

That's very sweet but must have broken your heart. I hope the fact that you were obviously so close brings you some comfort.

@Yika thank you, that's kind. This board was.a great comfort to me when he was dying/died. He was my best friend (except for the rocky teenage years!) And I just wish I could have him in my life again. Unfortunately for him, his symptoms would be fast tracked now rather than dismissed. I hope the change in the way it is dealt with brings hope to other families, although it was too late for him. Although he was never angry about it. I don't know how he did it.

@Newuser82 yes so sad. And my 1 year old son only met him once, which is just such a shame. I have so many memories of him, his loss is everywhere. Hopefully it'll get easier in time but as my other brother said, we'll always be a man down, which is so true.

I've never lost a sibling thank goodness but I have lost a parent. I'm not convinced that the loss gets easier to be honest but people say that you find it easier to cope with. I think you will aways miss that person. As the saying goes.. grief is the price you pay for love and your brother was quite clearly loved very much which I'm sure meant the world to him.

@Newuser82 although I would give anything to have him back, I am glad he is no longer suffering and I hope he felt comfort with us all being there with him at the end. We've always done everything on masse and I like to think that's how he wanted it. With us all around him, loving him. I'm sorry for your loss.

*en masse

So sorry for your loss. My mam died 2 days after Christmas and it was her birthday last week (and Mother's Day yesterday!).

It's all hard isn't it?

It was also my dear brother's birthday this week, he died several years ago, but on anniversaries it seems like yesterday. You're not alone OP.

@Mammyloveswine sorry for your loss. Early days for you. It does get slightly easier as time goes on, but it still floors me at times and especially on key events. Wishing you the best.

@FatArse123 thank you and I'm sorry for your loss too. Brothers are so special.

Thank you. How are you doing ?

@Mammyloveswine I'm better now the day has passed thank you, but it sets you back a few steps, remembering the gravity of the loss. I feel so terrible for my parents too, they're so sad.
How are you?

I'm doing ok... I can feel a bit of sparkle coming back into my eyes when I smile now. It's still very hard but I'm back to work and getting out and about.

Your poor parents.. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be for them.

Sending you 💕