Can I get a handhold please

[january123]

It's my DM's funeral tomorrow. All so surreal and my head is all over the place. Had to do all the organising myself with the help of wonderful friends.

Not sure I'm going to be able to hold it together

I’m so sorry @january123 Sending you so much love for tomorrow. Just take each minute as it comes. You don’t have to hold it together. Lean on your friends, physically and mentally. Let them hold you up.

Handhold. 💐

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP

The professionals who deal with these things will help you. They will be very used to dealing with grieving relatives. And you will have your friends around you looking after you,

I hope today was, despite everything, full of love. I didn't want to read and run.

My wonderful dad died relatively unexpectedly at the end of last year. His funeral was everything he would have wanted, his friends were wonderful and I even managed a couple of smiles. It was still awful and I felt completely hollow. It was all very surreal and I just couldn't comprehend the permanency of it all. I still can't. I miss him so incredibly deeply and still cry most days.

No real help in my post other than to say you are not alone. Grief is so personal, no one will mind if you can't get a word out or you can't stop talking. Or crying. They will all be there for you.

💐💕

My mum's funeral was 4 weeks ago. I am the only immediate family member left. I was responsible for all the organising that goes with a bereavement, perhaps it hadn't hit me yet on the day of her funeral but all I was thinking about was making her final journey fit for a queen, I did have a few wobbles but got up and did a eulogy in her honour, one last final time that I could do something to thank her, I'll always be glad I did what I did, and then went home to face my grief, I'm lost without her, a part of me is gone and I don't know how I will cope but although we had our disagreements, especially in later years, we knew we had each other and the love we had will carry me through this, I hope, so grateful for this forum, just writing things down and knowing I'm not alone helps.

Thank you All.
It was emotional but lovely and yes the all the professionals were amazing. Handheld all the way through.
So glad it's done now ❤️

So pleased that you found it so lovely OP. Sending you strength.