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It's been 16 years since I held my beautiful daughter

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16yearswithoutmybabygirl · 09/03/2023 09:41

My gorgeous little Emma-Lou bug would have been 16 a couple of weeks ago. I got through her birthday OK, but today, the day she died, has hit me like a tonne of bricks.

She was born extremely poorly, they didn't know during pregnancy (I knew something was wrong and was called paranoid, but that's by the by).

When I gave birth and she was placed on me the whole world stood still for a second. I saw this beautiful, perfect angel, with a mop of dark hair, and then she was gone as they saw she was struggling and whisked her away.

She had brittle bones, which had been broken throughout pregnancy and birth, and she couldn't breathe, but that couple of seconds of seeing my stunning daughter will stay with me forever, I didn't see her injuries, just her.

She was placed on a ventilator and had test after test, but she was just too fragile for this earth and she was taken off the ventilator 2 weeks later.

I spend days and nights reading, singing (she had the most perfect eye roll, and it told me she hated my singing) and talking to her, my poor little girl just got more and more poorly as time went on, and eventually it was too much for her.

She may have spent her tiny life hooked up to machines and in pain, but, my God did my daughter have a personality, she had the absolute cheekiest face, and the most expressive huge, dark eyes, the hospital staff were all in love with her too, it was hard not to.

I had the choice of 15 minutes with a curtain around us on the ward to say goodbye, or to take my time in, what was essentially, a store cupboard, I chose that option, and I opened the window so her soul could fly free as I held her so carefully and played music to her as she died in my arms.

She is so loved, and was so wanted, if love could have saved her she would have lived a thousand lives. My kids and I will have some angel cake tonight, light a candle and have a few quiet moments thinking of my gorgeous little girl, my fragile little angel, my little Emma-Lou ❤

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Luckycatyellowsky · 09/03/2023 09:43

She sounds like a darling little girl. She was so lucky to get you as her mummy.
my little girl died 12 years ago in June and you never ever stop aching for them.

Wagsandclaws · 09/03/2023 09:46

Bless you both, my heart goes out to you. The saddest posts I have ever read.

I am a Christian and will say prayers for you lost little ones and for some semblance of peace in your hearts.

Ridingfree · 09/03/2023 09:52

Lots of love. I'll light a candle for her tonight and send our thoughts x

Garysmum · 09/03/2023 09:53

Thinking of you. It's lovely that you have told us your little girl's story x

MissJam · 09/03/2023 09:56

Oh this is so sad, it’s made me cry. So sorry you went through that OP. What a little angel. She will be with you in spirit through the rest of your life and knows how much you love her. Sending love to you and others who have lost little ones ❤️

Wouldyouever · 09/03/2023 10:01

Your love for her is clear. Her character sounds perfect. I hope you paid attention to those eye rolls 😉 Thank you for sharing her with us. She’s a lucky girl to have you for her mummy x

Elsiebear90 · 09/03/2023 10:01

Your post made me cry and I don’t often cry, I’m so sorry you went through this, your little girl was so lucky to have you as a mum and to receive so much love during her short time ❤️

bakewellbride · 09/03/2023 10:02

That made me cry. So sorry for your loss op ❤️

Isheabastard · 09/03/2023 10:05

I think your post is beautiful and so sad and speaks for all the poor mums who have loved and lost little ones.

It has reminded me to be grateful for all my blessings.

Love to you all.

16yearswithoutmybabygirl · 09/03/2023 12:32

Thank you all for acknowledging my baby and her story.

One of the hardest things about her not being here is that she's just confined to my memory now, there's no new stories to tell, she will never impact anyone else, and it's just me carrying her memory on.

Even after all these years there are days when the pain makes me feel like I've been punched and it's one of those days today.

I can't quite believe it's been 16 years, the days have been so long, but the years have been so short.

@Luckycatyellowsky I'm so sorry it's been 12 years of you missing your little girl too, it truly sucks 💐

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Franticbutterfly · 09/03/2023 13:51

Yours and your Daughters story has really touched me. I'm in floods of tears and I rarely cry. My thoughts are with you x

gkhg · 09/03/2023 19:50

I'm crying my eyes out at this. To keep going after that, you're an inspiration.

Coffeeandnaps · 09/03/2023 20:02

I'm sure I remember you posting about your daughter before. Her story really touched me and stayed with me. Thinking of you x

Motnight · 09/03/2023 20:06

Emma-Lou sounds like an amazing baby, Op. So sorry for your loss.

EsmeT · 15/03/2023 19:49

You're so strong, what a wonderful person you are. 💐

Ukholidaysaregreat · 15/03/2023 19:58

❤❤❤❤🧡💛💚💙💜🌈🌈🌈🌈🌟🌟🌟🌟 sending lots of love to both of you 16yearswithoutmybabygirl and Luckycatyellowsky

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