Suicide and Why

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Gemls3123 · 01/03/2023 17:12

Sometimes it’s good to just say it without a reason.

My dad died in hospital. He went in with Covid and died of sepsis. My mam came home the same day from letting him go and said we’d take it one day at a time. She didn’t want anyone to stay with her to support her.

The next morning me and my sister went over. The curtains were closed. The door was unlocked. She had planned it all to the last detail. A note on the door asking us not to come in and just to call the police. She wanted to be with my dad.

I am sad every day that my mam gave up but I understand why. He was her life since she was 16 and she said she was ready to go if he did.

Sometimes as much as you want to change things and help someone, you can’t.

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Sliversands · 01/03/2023 17:13

I'm really sorry, that must have been so hard.

Nimbostratus100 · 01/03/2023 17:15

sending you lots of love xx

SirVixofVixHall · 01/03/2023 17:15

I am so very sorry OP.
Sometimes the shock and pain of losing a life partner can be overwhelming.

FadedRed · 01/03/2023 17:17

💐How very sad for you and your family, my sincere sympathy for your losses.

kilos · 01/03/2023 17:19

I am so sorry to read this, there are no right words but I am so sorry.

Sasha07 · 01/03/2023 17:21

She went out on her own terms. I think she was brave to do so. It's nice that you understand, as hard as it must be hurting.

That last line you wrote is so true. She was ready to go and did it in a considerate way, I'd take comfort knowing she planned it and didn't do it on a whim. I'd also take comfort in the thought that she trusted you and your sister were mature/strong enough to live your lives without her. No words can ease the pain but your mam sounds like she did what was best for her, better her way than years of loneliness and longing I guess ❤️

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Gemls3123 · 01/03/2023 17:29

Sasha07 · 01/03/2023 17:21

She went out on her own terms. I think she was brave to do so. It's nice that you understand, as hard as it must be hurting.

My dad was amazing and they had a love people dream of x

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Ooompaloopa · 04/03/2023 21:22

I am so sorry that you have lost both of your parents at the same time.

It must be hugely shocking to deal with a double bereavement.

Take your time to be gentle with yourself about what comes up with your grief over the coming months. It’s often not a straight line and you are carrying something heavier and potentially more complex here.

Their deep love as a couple will have been a huge life long gift of emotional security for your and your sister. You were blessed.

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