Anniversary of my husband's death

[cecinestpasunepipe]

Seven years ago. Just after midnight on 15th February. I find the weeks leading up to the anniversary each year quite unbearable, seeing all the Valentines Day cards and gifts in the shops. I am in a new relationship so feel somewhat guilty towards new man for the intensity of my feelings of loss at this time.

I'm so sorry I don't think you need to feel guilty. It's a hard time of year to have lost your husband and you're allowed to feel grief still.

I'm sorry @cecinestpasunepipe . It was 6 years ago for me on 13th Feb, just after midnight also.
This was the first year for me that my DH's anniversary happened on the same day of the week and it made it feel worse somehow this year, reliving everything again.
I was in a relationship for quite a while , but somehow it wasn't completely right.
You should not feel guilty to have found someone new. it doesn't take away from the sadness that you feel at this time and probably always will.
I feel sad that my DH missed out on so much and will continue to do so , although it's pointless because he doesn't know that and it's just me thinking that.
It doesn't mean that you can't build a life for yourself and be happy again.

I'm so sorry for your loss as well, Teawaster. Glad we've got over "that" time of year, until the next time. Of course our husbands are always in our hearts, no matter what time of year, but there are certain anniversaries that awaken that raw grief, aren't there? I know it's against MN protocol, but I'm sending you a hug!