At a loss after loss

[GavsGirl]

My partner of 14 years suddenly passed away on boxing day. Due to there being a post mortem we were only able to have the funeral last week. All of a sudden everything feels real. (If that makes sense) we lived in limbo for 6 weeks.. He was only 37 and we have a 7 year old child.

I'm just really finding hard atm to come to terms with everything. I need to keep strong for my little girl, but I'm struggling.

My condolences OP, I lost my DH suddenly and relatively young a few years ago, the struggle thing is normal I’m afraid, grief is awful.

There’s an organisation called Widowed And Young that you may find helpful, it’s a support group for those who have lost a partner and are under 50.

Thank you

I am much older than you but lost my DH a couple of years ago. It's one foot in front of the other & congratulate yourself for every little victory you make:

Like getting up, having a shower, remembering to put out the bin........ all of those are real achievements & praise yourself & take care of yourself & weep when you need to.

I am further down the line than you and I promise you it gets a bit easier. Your life will never be the same again but you will start, slowly, to adjust.

And on a pratical side, drink plenty of water to keep hydrated. A boiled egg & toast is a fine meal when you can't get anything else down, as is soup.

And reaching out here for help is a good sign ofyour mental state - admitting things are bad is hard...............

Thank you.