How to show I care when I'm letting them down

[spidereggs]

Hello

My best friends mother has died.

Her funeral is on Tuesday. He has one vulnerable daughter, and two other daughters, wife is also not in good health.

I have just tested positive for covid, my first time and am pretty rough, as are my three children and DH.

I know that there are no restrictions but with the family situation and many elderly relatives attending it would not be at all appropriate or kind for me to now attend.

The girls are teens, I don't think flowers would be appreciated.

Does anyone have any ideas of what I could do.

My children have drawn some pictures, I thought maybe seeds, in a card, I just don't know.

I cannot believe this. He is so upset. They all are.

Sorry to hear about your friend's mother, and that on top of worrying about supporting them you now have covid. Really rotten timing.

Funerals are undeniably important and a time to show support. However, the period after a funeral can also be a really difficult time for those who are bereaved and a time when most people go back to their own busy lives.

I think your friend will understand why you can't attend the funeral but there are other things you can do before the day and on the day , send a card, a text, something to let your them know you are thinking of them. Seeds sound like a lovely idea .Then in the longer term being around for a coffee, a walk, a phone call - those all make such a difference.

You sound like a lovely friend, hope you feel better soon ❤️