So sad. DC's teacher's pfb has died at 4 weeks. Is there anything we can do?

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Desperately sad. But nothing compared to what the poor parents are going through. What can I say/do/give? or just leave well alone? So sad.

I think a card would be appropriate. You could pass it to someone at school to send on to her.

Please send a card, or write a letter if you think it would be appropriate.

It will not help in the immediate time, but later it will give them some comfort to know you have been thinking about them.

It must be hard if people think that no one 'cares'

As MB says, send a card
I hated that work had to know about my prem stillbirth, but the flowers, and cards, and kind letters that found their way to me from colleagues in the following weeks, did help very much
Cards, just a few words, do make a difference
I'm so sorry their baby died

definitely a card ...sons english teachers wife suffered a mc and son went to him at a quiet moment and said sir im sorry for your loss the normally very strict teacher shook his hand and hugged him at parents evening he told us and said that was the moment he saw a 14 yr old lad mature in a minute ....so sad poor teacher xxxxx

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how sad - card sounds like a good idea and if you know the teacher well maybe ask at school if they were sending any flowers or anything you could contribute to - and there will be a funeral of course - the parents may ask for charity donations at that - you could find out what it is and make a donation?

sorry i'm in tears again and i don't even know her so well! thanks for answering so quickly. it's just my last conversation with her was when she was ready to pop so to speak, and i told h eer about when i was in a similar situation, working at school up to the end of my pregnancy,although mine was 11yres ago now. wass telling her how special it was, she was so happy.

and now we have this news.
yes, a card, a donation

i can remember the grief of thinking my dd MIGHT die - that was stupendous - waking up every morning and experiencing a brief bubble of forgetfulness before it all came flooding back. Then just sobbing. But this is something else... I feel for her so much. Thanks for letting me give vent to these feelings..... which must be nothing compared to what the parents are experiencing

Definitely a card or a message at least.

One of the things I remember about my father's cremation ceremony was the family ahead of us who'd lost a tiny baby (about 6w old ). In spite of what must have been almost unbearable grief - at least losing a 70+ parent is the natural order of things - those parents and wider family visibly took some comfort or at least distraction from reading the numerous messages attached to flowers sent for that baby.

I suppose you want your child's life - which must leave such a deep mark on your heart - to leave a visible impression on others - and the messges, cards etc are a way of showing that. One of the many,many things I've learnt from mnet - is that its always better to say something - however inarticulate or awkward you feel - than to say nothing.

Dippydeedo - how proud you must have been of your son!