Funeral Arrangements

[Tumbleweed101]

This is my first time arranging a funeral. I didn't realise how much input went into one. We've had to do everything as nothing was pre-planned or arranged. Choosing the music has been surprisingly difficult. I just got the first draft of the service through and it's taken lots of cry stops to get to the end. And that is only draft one!

Op, sorry for your loss

Surprisingly it does all come together in end. I felt the same when arranging my sons funeral, couldn't think of music, what to put in the eulogy but it came together in the end.
Although there was a fair bit of input from his sisters and friends.

The funeral director can also offer lots of advice and support as well as the minister/humanist or whoever is delivering the service.

Sorry to hear that, I organised my first funeral (mum) last year and found it surprisingly easy. I was dreading it but the funeral director was amazing and made everything so easy. Luckily mum and I were very close and I knew her favourite songs, flowers etc. I wrote the eulogy myself and the celebrant read it as I couldn't have done !

Since I wrote that everything seems to have fallen into place. I was having a bad day. The funeral director and celebrant have been great.

I'm glad that things are coming together for you @Tumbleweed101. When we arranged the first one I remember swinging from "I don't know what I'm doing!" To feeling that this is incredibly sad, but I think we are going along the lines of what they would have wanted and this just might work out.

Look after yourself @Tumbleweed101. I took some time every day to do an activity that would hopefully help me recover.

Sorry to hear about your loss,

I know this might sound hippy dippy,clicHave have you thought of sitting in quiet space somewhere or doing a bit of meditation, as this would help to clarify your thoughts, so ideas 💡 ect be able to come through to you,

Even being in nature have a stroll for a bit for e.g can help you to clear your thoughts, effectively so you think with more clarity too,

You will find surprising unexpected profound inspiration for your loved ones funeral such as favourites poems, songs flowers , eulogy ect.

Obviously if you don't feel up to this in regard of Eulogy , a relative or a friend could do this for you,
The funeral director can Obviously can and will do this for you too, reading out Eulogy,
The religious faith person or Celebant or Humanist Can do this aswell.

Hi Op

I know this may sound hippy dippy cliche sort of stuff ect

Take care x

Oh my goodness yes there's so much thought has to go in to putting "padding" onto the bare outline of the service.

I did both my parents funeral services - mum in 2020, dad 2021 and tried my best for both. There was a fabulous moment last year when they took the late Queen into Edinburgh Cathedral and the choir sang one of the anthems I'd chosen for dads funeral. It set us all off in tears but our main thought was how chuffed dad would be that he had had some of the same music as her - he was always a big admirer of hers and being born the year before her, he'd followed her all his life.

The effort you're putting in will all be worth it, I was very happy after dads funeral with my choices and how it had all come across.

It's just crazy how long it took to decide on the photo for the order of service, for example. We had so many beautiful photos and picking one from them all was so tricky.

Goodread1 - I find being outdoors and quiet space much easier to settle my thoughts but it feels like so many people are around at the moment it's hard to find space. I have had some time over the weekend alone so that has helped.

Our written tributes are now too long for the time we have available for the service so we need to edit them down a bit.