Already lonely

[Danmorph]

Hello.

I am a recently widowed 58 year old male.

My 3 daughters have all returned to their own homes after the funeral and I am starting to feel very lonely.

I haven't returned to work yet and spend all my time in the house.

Has anyone else gone through this?

Thanks

Hi OP, sorry for your loss. I lost my DH when I was a few years younger than you. I have no DCs so very much on my own all of a sudden.

I went back to work quite quickly as I felt I needed the structure. It was hard, but it did help. I think I had about a week off after the funeral which I spent with a friend.

There is a lot to cope with in the aftermath of grief, emotionally and practically, and I went part time to cope. Work were very accommodating. I used some of the time off to deal with practicalities but also other to start building my social network and spend more time with existing friends.

There is an organisation called WAY-UP (WAY stands for ‘widowed and young’ who have a cut off age of 50, the UP bit shows it’s a group for those over 50).

It’s a hard road OP, I wish you all the best.

Sorry for your loss, I imagine it just be absolutely devastating when it’s a partner .

I lost my mum a month ago and am dreading my children returning to school tomorrow. They can be such a buffer. I want to “get back to normal” but am debating whether to find grief support groups or not - I’m scared in case it brings me down 😂

I find comfort in talking to people in my shoes - not many of my friends have lost parents.