Coincidence or something else?

[Wilff]

Approx 30 years ago when I was first engaged my then fiancée gave me the affectation nickname Wilf (Wilfred when pretending to be serious) :-)
We had a very happy 7 years together & parted amicably.

He moved to France,had a daughter and from what small amounts of info ive heard over the years, happy & doing well.

I also have had a happy marriage of more than 20yrs with 2 amazing children.

Neither of us have crossed paths or spoken in those 30yrs since.

A few weeks ago I decided to join Mumsnet.!! When I had to come up with a Username for some reason (which I didn't think too much about at the time) the Only one that came into my mind & very quickly, was my old nickname , as printed above.!

"WILF" is genuinely the only nickname my ex fiancé had for me .
Noone else has ever called me this !!
I've never thought about it all these years and never mentioned it to anyone else.

THIS is the bizarre coincidence that my post is relating to..
A FEW DAYS AFTER SETTING UP THIS MsNt account + Username , I RECEIVED A LETTER TO SAY HE HAD RECENTLY PASSED AWAY .

Yes, a coincidence
Sorry for your loss

First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss and I agree it does seem rather uncanny timing.

It's one of those little things in life that makes you stop and wonder. I've never had, or don't believe I have (there was something recently that has made me think but too uspsetting to talk about), one of these experiences. I'm very open minded about "other forces" and the "supernatural" and would love to experience something that convinces me, as I think there is something so intertesing about what may be out there.

Sorry for your loss

I'm going to say probably coincidence, but...if you think it was a "sign" and that brings you comfort, then who am I to say differently!

I have had lots of signs from my son, some people would say its a coincidence or imagination, but I like to think differently, and some things I just cant explain

I think your subconscious maybe knew he was gone. My first boyfriend died a few years ago. At around the time he passed away I was in the bath a started to cry uncontrollably. I am pretty sure it was my subconscious knowing he was gone.

This is a lovely post!

Well I'd take that as a sign anyway OP. Sorry for your loss.

I had 2 incredibly strange things happen on the day my mum died, and one about a week after my dad's funeral too. All too outing to type here because I've spoken about them to loads of people, but they are absolutely signs, to me anyway.

There are things we can’t explain but we take comfort from. My mum has recently passed away and there are 2 things that I can’t explain: a floating ethereal shadow passed between me and my sister when I broke the news to her. Also an alert tone on my phone woke me when it was on silent mode that I cannot replicate. That was a missed call from the hospital. My imagination? Perhaps but I get comfort thinking otherwise.

@Scabetty So sorry for your loss and I would take comfort too in your experience. for the floating ethereal shadow that passed by, did you feel any physical sensations?

I experienced a loss recently and I can't stop having vivid dreams. It's almost like I am there and they are so upsetting that I can begin to describe the pain. I am desperate for an inexplicable experience but not forthcoming sadly.

Aww that's so sad but I do believe we somehow are connected and get these messages.

I'm so sorry for your lost, I've lost a few ex partners and it does feel really strange and unsettling.

@WillTimeCome No feeling experienced but we both saw it. I had been in the hospital when my mum passed away and driven to tell my sister. I like to think she was checking we were together.

I am sorry for your loss x

I'm certainly getting the sense that Overall the feeling we've got from these moments, is an inner strength, almost like it gives us a warm glow to carry inside us.
Although we're openly sharing & discussing our experiences , im going to suggest that none of us are actually questioning if any of it is real or imagined BECAUSE that's not the point.

We know in are hearts that it 100% means so much to us personally and individually. That's the point.

Feeling loved and To have loved is so empowering it helps us carry on.

💕

@Wilff

100% agreed.

I want to believe and hope it is true. Wouldn't it be lovely if there were something out there lookign after / out for you?

No one is going to say 'coincidence' after reading the previous posts, are they?!

I am sorry to all who are grieving.